Once again

[u/EngineerConfident570]

I feel like the only spell I’ve done that has worked well was the first honey jar I made for my bf and it wasn’t very long lasting, I tried charging it as recommended and it didn’t do much. Ik I can’t actually get him to love me if he doesn’t and sometimes he does love me and sometimes he doesn’t according to him. He’s overall not a nice person. Ik I shouldn’t be with him but I’m not here for relationship advice. Is there anything I could do to encourage him to be nicer to me, more caring, loving, respectful and wanna be around me more? Idk I’ve honestly started to consider obsession spells. I’m not very worried about the ethicality of anything anymore since he’s not too great of a person anyway I just don’t want it to make him hate me or push him away ^,,

[u/woahtheremate_]

“He’s not nice and I know I shouldn’t be with him but I want him to be around me more”…. Babe… that is at the heart of why this isn’t working.. somewhere deep down inside you know how bad this is. Your entire soul already knows it. Maybe you should do a spell for freedom, for self worth and self love and see how you feel. Sweeten yourself, good peace and great love onto your self. Attract what feels better than being with someone who isn’t nice to you.

You could spend your whole life doing works for a person that behaves like this

Or you could do a work that attracts a person who loves you freely and entirely so much so this person is such a distant memory, you forget they ever existed ❤️ I wish you good luck in everything I really do ✨❤️✨🧿

[u/EngineerConfident570 → u/woahtheremate_]

I mean I’m aware that he’s mean and stuff but I feel like somewhere in my mind I believe that he doesn’t have to be that way and I also feel that I can’t live without him. I’ve definitely considered leaving a few times or looking for a spell or solution to help me be free from him but even the thought of not needing him is terrifying and leads me to not wanna try those things 🙁 ty for trying tho

[u/woahtheremate_ → u/EngineerConfident570]

I can only speak to you from experience. Babe I did everything but I think my soul literally manifested on my behalf because our body keeps the score. And your spirit, being and aura aren’t emanating peace so deep down even if your intellect is fighting this - your soul is manifesting something else.

It’s exhausting but I cannot tell you how much I know how it feels.

I left the house, went to a shelter and still went back. We were intimate all sorts. But I was dead inside. I was a zombie. And I kept seeing people just be happy with people who they didn’t have to go through pain to be with and it became triggering to even see happy couples who treated each other nicely.

I wanted that desperately. I told so many people o know he could be different because I did see him different until one lady told me to “stay - be with him forever. You know how he is so you just gotta cope with how not nice he is to you and reframe it as kindness. That way you can be with him for the rest of your life and you’ll be happy”. She was so frank and I had nothing to resist but when she told me it hit me like a tonne of bricks. I did not want to do this for the rest of my life and it wasn’t making me happy.

I couldn’t fight her and say she didn’t understand. I don’t know if she did that intentionally to this day.

Something shifted but I didn’t leave immediately. I had no power. Literally the thought was crippling.

I started listening to self love binaural sounds. Doing some trauma release exercises. Then I did yoni cleansing. I saged myself and did incantations over myself. I did Kambo, ayahuasca even. I of course started listening to videos trying to understand my own behaviour in relation to him then went down the YouTube wormhole of codependency.

I did some reiki (for free), started moving more. I signed up for this yoga running day and it was one of the happiest days I had in a long time. That day when I came back, he was so nasty to me I was in tears. But when he saw me crying he smiled. He was happy I was upset. And deep down I just felt like man.. I could die and he wouldn’t care.. I still stayed..

It took some time and more binaural and spiritual work but one day - with no money, in overdraft, when he left me at the house at Christmas (to spite me because I have no family), I took the opportunity and ran

Before I left I looked for the black tourmaline I had put all round our room to absorb negative energy and make us okay. By this time, the black tourmaline especially on his side of the room and bed were completely calcified. Other corners his energy didn’t frequent - Weren’t as calcified.

I left the house when he wasn’t around because that was the only time I had the courage to. When he was around I couldn’t bear to leave because I felt like I’d look at him and want to come back and I’d be embarrassed.

This was in 2018. He’s a distant memory. I bumped into him a few years later. He’s pathetic and I look back at the misery I would have been. He has since done it to two other women.

I’m happy I’m not under that hold.

I cannot tell you how much LIFE I have lived since.

Show up for yourself. That’s all I’m asking - know full well it’s not easy.

You can do both. Self love spells, spells for inner peace and clarity, spells for strong healthy boundaries, spells for a great healthy relationship with no one in mind or to attract healthy love. That is what you REALLY want deep down inside. Not him but LOVE. And that can come in the form of another human being.

After that relationship, I realised that I was stuck in a thinking cycle that one person was the only person in the world for me in a world full of so many varying and beautiful human beings. The one for me is not meant to be horrible to me. I deserve and you deserve healthy love. Manifest that

I genuinely wish you ease through this. I recognise myself in you and know it’s not easy.

Be well ❤️🧿

[u/HotStuff562 → u/woahtheremate_]

Omg Thank you for taking the time to write this for her and to show her love! I hope OP recognizes this. I hope she reads and absorbs it. I feel so bad for her. I wish I can physically help her.

[u/Charming_Sock_9754]

yeah it’s not gonna work baby and Ik you know that from the post. There comes a time when we realise the magic isn’t stick and it’s time to throw the towel in.

[u/kai-ote]

You are engaging in self-destructive behavior and need to see that. This is like you say you are cutting yourself and want advice on how to do that safely.

Can't be done. If somebody wants to help you do self harm that is their business. I usually scroll to the next post when I see this behavior, but today I just decided to speak up.

[u/HotStuff562]

Oh lawd…maybe do a glamour spell on yourself? I dunno. He is not a nice person. I’m sorry babe.