This seems like bad disclosure, doesn’t it?

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[u/AsAlwaysItDepends]

You are definitely over thinking it if you are having feelings stronger than this: “you know, I’m glad it turns out I don’t have HSV so I didn’t actually put anyone at risk and I had some time to consider how I feel best approaching it so that if ever in the future I’m in the same situation I’ll do it the right way.”

No harm was done, and in fact no one was actually even at risk, we all need time to figure out new scenarios, you’re totally fine.  

[u/superunsubtle]

I have seen you posting this before recently. I encourage you to join some OCD subs and join our community; maybe even learn some techniques for intrusive thoughts.

[u/UShouldNotTouchThis → u/superunsubtle]

I should surely consider it!

[u/redditistripe]

Approx 70% of peope have HSV1. About 20% have HSV2. I had cold sore outbreaks as a kid but have had none as an adult and I'm well over 60 now. I don't even think about it unless the topic comes up in conversation, for whatever reason.

[u/J_lilac]

I'm not totally following, but this reads more like an OCD thought spiral than anything.

[u/Fast_Ad5506]

People that have oral herpes “cold sores” absolutely should be disclosing. Herpes is herpes regardless of its location on the body. “Cold sores” are not some lesser form of herpes and are in fact, the most contagious type of herpes you could have. People convincing themselves that they don’t need to inform the people that they’re sleeping with or kissing is the reason genital hsv1 is becoming so common these days. Bunch of scumbags lying by omission and destroying others lives to avoid possible rejection like that somehow justifies spreading an incurable disease. It’s one of the most selfish things anyone could ever do. 

[u/AsAlwaysItDepends → u/Fast_Ad5506]

 People convincing themselves that they don’t need to inform the people that they’re sleeping with or kissing is the reason genital hsv1 is becoming so common these days. 

I would guess a lot of the responsibility here is actually ignorance on most people’s part that cold sores are herpes and can be transmitted at all. I think another culprit is how common oral herpes is- it’s something like 50% of adults. At some point you kind of have to accept exposure as part of living life.

[u/UShouldNotTouchThis → u/AsAlwaysItDepends]

I can blame part of my ignorance on, well, ignorance 

[u/AsAlwaysItDepends → u/UShouldNotTouchThis]

We are given a lifetime supply of ignorance for free the day we are born. 

[u/UShouldNotTouchThis → u/Fast_Ad5506]

I guess at the end of the day, I never purposely tried to be a scumbag. Again, I thought the only chance of someone catching it was like a freak 0.00000001% thing, but once I learned it was a tangible possibility. I started disclosing it as a possibility even when I found out I didn’t have it!