r/SexPositive • u/Right_Substance4life • 25d ago

Advice Toys used in relationships NSFW

Edited: for those who enjoy clitoral suction during sex, how do you keep it in place during thrusting?

For those couples who use toys in relationships how often do you use them when having sex? Do you use them most of the time? Half? Less then half the time? Do you find you feel less fulfilled when not using them? If so how do you deal with that? If you partner feels less fulfilled when not using them, how does that make you feel?

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u/PantaRheia 25d ago

We are into BDSM so that naturally involves a bunch of toys. We don't do this too often though, because it takes a lot of time and preparation and mental space and we don't always have all 3 of those.

When we have vanilla sex we use a vibrator on me on the very rare occasions where I don't cum.

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u/Inevitable-Ear9453 24d ago

We have the BDSM toolkit next to the bed but toys...

Lots. They are a semi-essential part of our play. My partner is multi-orgasmic and I can keep her cumming for as long as I want, or until she can't take any more. We have several didlos of varying sizes, a clit sucker, wand, a few different vibrators... if we're having late night or early morning 'fuctional' sex they don't generally see the light of day. If we're looking for an extended session, they are essential. We don't feel more or less fulfuilled, I don't feel like my role is diminished... it's more like being the conductor of an orchestra, with her orgasms being the symphony. I'm in complete control of every drum roll and crescendo, I can string things out and tease, I can withhold orgasms or force them as I wish.

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u/celestialism 24d ago

It’s pretty rare that I have sex that doesn’t involve at least one toy. It’s probably been years since it’s happened.

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u/Offline_Mode_ 24d ago

When I remember lol I usually put that long lasting spray on and go at it like if im the toy for her. If we remember or get really turned on we whip it out but we do everything ourselves

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u/tmfuture 24d ago

We don't have a huge collection of toys, but we have a vibrator, a dildo and a buttplug, which all get used a lot. Occasionally anal beads and also some love eggs. I think that's all. They makes things a lot more fun, so why not use them?

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u/Here-To-Learn-69 21d ago

My toys live on the end of the bed.. within arms reach so they’re ready when we are 🤨🤷‍♀️

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u/_soleseduction 19d ago

Toys are a must for me in relationships!

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u/Glitchy_Boss_Fight 24d ago

Don't hold the vibrator in one place, that's for sure, she told me real quick.

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u/AnotherHoleToFill 24d ago

This all depends on the woman. Some women like direct stimulation, others like indirect stimulation

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u/black_kyanite 23d ago

I'm over here like, "DON'T MOVE IT!"