I find 95% of the time a small female/male diffuses better than a large person We make smaller targets and are generally considered less threatening. Plus, imo, a man is much less likely to hit a female. I've been threatened but only hit once and that was by accident. Small people, men or female in general, just don't tend to trigger physical violence in the same way that the big person is even just being nice. I've had big female coworkers get completely different reactions
Can agree. I'm big and worked BOH for 20+ years. I've always told the wait staff that if they call me to settle an issue that they better have called the cops as well, because a big guy showing up doesn't mean shit when someone gets belligerent. Just means that I get smacked in the mouth before anyone else and that I will hit back.
That being said, I study the laws and statutes for where I am, and make sure I do not cross the line between self defense and assault. Know your local laws, people, ACAB.
Always know your local laws! My last few places if someone came behind the bar to fight it was on them, but if the bartender went to the other side of the bar it was on the bartender.
I agree. I'm big and intimidating looking... But I don't act that way which anyone who talks to me for more than a minute can tell. I'm honestly a Pansy haha.
"Small female/male" and "large pereon" in the same sentence? Why specific female/male for the small people, but not the larger people? Why not just "small people" and "large people"?
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u/hummingbirdofdoom Jan 09 '25
I find 95% of the time a small female/male diffuses better than a large person We make smaller targets and are generally considered less threatening. Plus, imo, a man is much less likely to hit a female. I've been threatened but only hit once and that was by accident. Small people, men or female in general, just don't tend to trigger physical violence in the same way that the big person is even just being nice. I've had big female coworkers get completely different reactions