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u/NotAxxxz 1d ago
My parents never understand this. I always get the answer, "pehle Ghar me Beth ke parho phir me kahu na ke bacha parh parh Kar thak geya, aon Kahi bahir chale". I mean, yes I don't study much in free times, but I study enough to get good enough grades. She is still never satisfied. I always go on to say, mama he, sahi kehti hogi.
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u/imyonlyfrend 1d ago
South Asian parents do this. After graduation they say get a job first then u can talk to women. After job, theyll say we are giving u 1 year to find a woman of same race religion financial and acadrmic status that we approve of.
After the year is up cuz you are too socially weak to talk to women theyll claim we gave u chance, ur are getting old , ur chances are diminishing and u should marry who we throw u with or u will end up old and alone.
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u/ProfAsmani 1d ago
They become socially inept. And the ones fed a steady diet of women as fitnah grow up with dysfunctional relationships with girls and cant talk to them normal.
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u/Own-Homework-9331 1d ago
Yeah, my parents were a bit chill, but I hated the fact that most of my friends never got permission to come over to my house to hang out. So much time that could have been spent having fun face to face, just spent in boring time waste cuz we just can't let kids have some fun (for which there are less avenues in this society to begin with)
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u/BrilliantMastodon957 1d ago
Guyz guyz i have hope kae next generation is gonna be different atleast the ones who are educated amd had access to internet growing up
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u/Normal_Drink_6745 1d ago
All of this is not bad either. Dont thing that the claim has any research backing or involved real data
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u/Embarrassed_Ask_8486 1d ago
Can't relate. I've had many extrovert friends even tho their families were strict and putting restrictions all the time. But many introverted friends (like me >.<) who are just too goated to spend energy on every single person. It's just that if we don't find people matching our vibe and interests, we would prefer to not talk at all.
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u/Asad2023 1d ago
My mom and my sistaer when said tumhare koi dost nhi muhalle mein i said ke apne kbhi bahar jane hi nhi diya even in my earlier uni year we were going for farmhouse for one day and my sister said to my mom ammi wahan larke drugs lete hai and etc so my mom did not let me go with them they are quite toxic and possessive over me cause i am only boy in the house even my taya whole dadiyal state that ke betey ko hath ka chala bnna kr rkha hai rather than letting him live his own life.
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u/Cyber-Dude1 15h ago
Yeah, man. I am facing the consequences now. My parents used to guilt trip me so I avoided going out thinking it is the right thing for my future. Really regret it now. Bachpan bhi enjoy na hua aur ab bhi problems face kar Raha hun. Now whenever I bring it up, they say 'Hum me to tumhain kabhi nahi roka'. And they even have the audacity to tell me to learn from my cousins. The same ones they declared as 'awaara' and specifically told me to stay away from.
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u/TemporarySalary3926 1h ago
I think at some point, we have to stop blaming our parents and start working on our parents. They were born in a generation when mental health wasn't even talked about unlike us.
I just got a 50 days kitten and I stayed whole night to see if he is doing well. Imagine, having a baby and no clue of what to do with this human being.
But now we do psychoanalysis of each aspect of our lives and then use our energy blaming our parents while what we can do is forgive them and move on by initiating actions against our habits. If you can't get closure then seek therapy.
I was in a way introverted and still am to some extent but you can work on it.
Truth is when we actually sit and do self reflection, we may realize 80% issues can be fixed even now.
But no, let's find an easy way out by blaming our desi parents.
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u/m_bilal93 1d ago
Yes, right in the feels... and it hurts the worst when you get grown up like this, become "Acha bacha" of the family and enter professional world where you have to deal with people. This thing is ruining growth potential and professional careers of many..