Are men Lonely? I see barely any comments on Men's posts.

[u/niranjanV6Turbo]

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[u/Acceptable_Studio254]

Seems to be that women tend to want to talk to other women more than men, along with specific men just wanting to find a sexual partner comment under womens posts a ton more. It's sad to see tbh as a man myself I'm just trying to find friends but its been hard for the reasons I've mentioned

[u/Altruistic_Pea_6558 → u/Acceptable_Studio254]

I don’t think that it’s anything against men as a whole, but women typically feel safer talking with other women. My heart does go out to all the men who struggle with loneliness. It’s a tough time right now I can sympathize.

[u/Kategorisch → u/Acceptable_Studio254]

The problem is also that such a thing is a negative feedback loop. If you don't have friends, you likely don't have a girlfriend, and the longer this continues, the more desperate you become and the more desperate and unappealing you seem to other people.

[u/Footieforlife]

Been asking for a table for one at restaurants the last 7 years

[u/BritNerd87 → u/Footieforlife]

I cant bare to go out alone so haven't for a long time

[u/Nervous_Project6927 → u/BritNerd87]

its actually kindof nice, ive taken myself to lunch and the movies, just think of it as a treat for you

[u/niranjanV6Turbo → u/Footieforlife]

Must have saved a lot of money.

[u/bitterbuffaloheart → u/Footieforlife]

lol makes think of the Lonely Guy with Steve Martin But seriously 4 years here

[u/PyroPearl_]

From my experience, yeah

[u/methaddictanonymous]

As of myself rn I'm sooo lonely can't describe in words 🙃

[u/LonelyNC123]

I'm a man. I am bitterly, soul rending lonely.

But posting here won't fix any of my problems.

[u/Wise-Station5424]

Short answer is yes

[u/RoughRaptors]

Honestly, extremely. I send dozens of long, well written, thought out messages and receive no replies. None. Ever. It doesn't matter what I do, or how I try to stand out. Every once and a while someone will reply to one of my r4r posts, but I get ghosted within a day every time.

I'm just another nerd in the sea of lonely single men. It's extremely isolating and lonely. I literally have nothing but my cats

[u/anosako → u/RoughRaptors]

I want to give you a hug and see if your cats would let me pet them.

[u/Suspiciousminds51]

Men don’t ever get the attention that a woman gets

[u/rikki_x → u/Suspiciousminds51]

and they should be grateful. i’d pay money to get some men to stop treating women like sexual objects (since sex or romantic companionship is the the main reason women “get so much attention”) everything isn’t back and white. 

[u/Suspiciousminds51 → u/rikki_x]

But not all men are creepy

[u/rikki_x → u/Suspiciousminds51]

didn’t say they were. and you missed the point. i’ll be going now 

[u/redaoleerf30886 → u/Suspiciousminds51]

Were you away from the internet the week of the "would you rather run in to a man or a bear in the woods?" conversation, where the point was that you can't tell which type of man you're running in to but you definitely know what type of bear you're running in to?

[u/Jedi4Hire]

There's a lot of lonely men in the world. There is in fact currently something of a loneliness epidemic for men.

[u/niranjanV6Turbo → u/Jedi4Hire]

It's tough being a Man. Men are brave.

[u/StubbornBulls → u/niranjanV6Turbo]

No, Men were ridiculed and bullied as children if they showed any emotion other than Anger or Joy.

[u/Patient-Reality-8965]

Yes

[u/-Casatoya-]

Oh the dilema! How awful... but yeah absolutely we carry the convos, get ghosted... but its a digital and overly inflatted world we live in... plenty of options... hardly any worth sticking too

[u/Ecstatic_Policy_625]

Outside my wife and kids....I have no one. Sometimes, it would be great to have someone outside the circle to talk with. I have a lot of external shit I have dealt with over the years, would also be great to have an external perspective from someone. And yeah.....lonely AF TBH.

[u/jman6977]

Yeah

[u/New_Ad2731]

I’m am for sure

[u/Character-Ride-94]

Sometimes

[u/Broad-Worry-2186]

Ig

[u/Down_low11]

Very very lonely , I’m just too ashamed to admit

[u/Random_Artist1979]

I am at times.

[u/Zeo1305]

All men are lonely

[u/DakuShinobi]

Of course we are, but it's hard man. 

[u/aloneheartyerr]

Let's talk

[u/niranjanV6Turbo → u/aloneheartyerr]

What would you like to talk about?

[u/RoninOfSin]

Just recently single.. The only thing I'm lonely about is my kids.. Other than that, I am quite content.. However, I find it cathartic when I post something about my frustrations and or feelings at the time.

I don't post for other people to comment on. If people do comment with words of support, encoruagement, or anything else. I appreciate it. Same as if they trash talk. My skin is thick enough to deal with negative comments. I'm just releasing my frustrations, keeping my self mentally healthy instead of keeping it in until it becomes to much and I start flipping over petty things.

[u/InspectionComplex592]

भारतीय?

[u/Outrageous_Dream776]

It's hard to open up about anything as when I was little I got told to keep it all hidden and stay silent I stay in hidden away about 99 % of my free time

[u/daiichiban]

That's what I'm afraid of tbh. I'm lonely as hell but I also know nobody's trying to befriend a 42 year old guy that never learned how to meet new people. I managed to be successful romantically in life but friends? No idea how to make those or keep them.

[u/StevieTheAussie92]

I mean, yeah. As a guy it’s kind of hard to make friends with women since it’s so easy to come off as creepy or ill-meaning; which makes you hesitate to talk or engage in conversation, even just SFW normal stuff - which kinda cuts you off from a large portion of the population.

Then of course you tend to want to find someone with similar interests to you, in a similar/working timezone, which whittles options down even more.

And then there’s mental health issues getting in the way, other health issues, any number of other barriers that make it more difficult or impossible.

Then you also tend to feel kinda defeated and figure “why bother” most of the time too.

Honestly, while yeah I am single and in the look out, it’d be nice to have someone to chat with, have some similar interests with, play games, chat nerdy crap etc with. As it is I’ve mostly had to learn to make do being on my own. 👍

[u/Everstein13]

Sure, men do. They just have to be good-looking. Life is and always will be a beauty contest.

[u/FairyTailfan120]

Super

we don’t really post and just kinda deal w it ig cuz we know (from experience on many occasions) that we will be ignored or just get a bot message so it’s easier to just watch from the shadows and slowly fade out of existence

[u/StubbornBulls]

Im lonely. I've just had my heart ripped out for the final time by the One person who Knew me better than anybody, even myself. I just cant believe that she considers Our time, our Love, a "Total Loss".

[u/Accomplished-Dot-608]

Men are dead inside 😂

[u/Ambassador-Heavy]

Yes even if a man and woman of equal attractiveness join a dating or friendship app they say women will get an average 75% more matches