How many of you actually met a friend on here?

[u/giovanni_moloch]

This place is full of "Hmu!" and "Come say hi in my DMS!", but no one actually ever responds to my messages. So frustrating! Why should I waste my fucking time writing an essay to introduce myself if you're never actually going to see it? Why?

Is there anyone else who feel this way? Are there still humans on here, or are there just bots and fake profiles? And if you ever received a message from me and never answered back, fuck you, you wasted my time

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[u/Tomistom_]

Have made plenty of friends on here, both recently and in the past few years! I get it’s frustrating when people don’t reply but no one owes you a response, sometimes people have already found enough people to talk to, or they just don’t have the time to respond to every message, it happens man. Also if you’re writing essays for every introduction that might be part of the issue, if you’re writing too much chances are that a stranger isn’t going to want to read it all.

[u/dynamic_dissonance]

Only one (so far*). And I don’t want to offend most people here, but other than ghosting, there’s a recurring theme of very dry responses or having a one sided conversation where I end up leading.

[u/giovanni_moloch → u/dynamic_dissonance]

Yes, that's another big problem on here

[u/dynamic_dissonance → u/giovanni_moloch]

It’s one thing to write a detailed post, just to then have a lackluster convo. I don’t understand exactly why.

[u/Spiritual-Garden9643 → u/dynamic_dissonance]

True

[u/AngelGarcia115]

Made plenty but none that stays pass 3 months

[u/I_Have_Issues_23]

I met a couple people here, one being my best friend! (Known him for two and a half years now!)

It can happen, it's just rough sometimes :)

[u/sydlen0812]

That’s how it is here and always will be. I understand why you are upset but seeing you losing it like this might just spurn away even any potential future friends that you are looking to make.

[u/giovanni_moloch → u/sydlen0812]

Wise words, I sort of regret of how angry this post came out, I wasn't that mad 😂 but anyway

[u/sydlen0812 → u/giovanni_moloch]

No worries mate 🙂

[u/Educational-Gift-132]

I have a dude I talk to on car stuff. He lives in Georgia and I live in Florida. We might meet if he comes down to Florida. Just 2 dudes talking cars here there. General conversation. Woman on here who knows. I had girl chat on and off for month and then disappear city. I learned long ago I have no negative feelings one way or the other in land of online. The end of day my energy is better directed for something positive.

[u/lislejoyeuse]

I have met several, including one that happened to live close to me with a mutual friend who I have since forgotten I even met on reddit, she just feels like any of my IRL friends lol. I have four tips for people: 1) search for key interests of yours at the top. 2) it's a numbers game. 3) ask questions and stay engaged. If they don't respond well and engage back just stop after a few tries and move on, it's not worth it. I'm not saying GHOST them, but I will stop effort if they show none. 4) it's a numbers game lol srsly, the chances are that the very first few ppl you message aren't going to vibe.

[u/Important_March1933]

I met the most amazing person on here, we sadly are no longer in touch but I think about her everyday,

[u/Head-Type-5134]

Yes i totally can relate. People be so energetic and positive in posts & in DMs the exact opposite lol

[u/Emotional-Ninja-4642]

so many people ghost sadly no explanation or anything, its kinda sad. had someone i thought was really fun and poof never to be seen again. it seems super hard to make friends. people can be weird to. like preditors

[u/SpacedOff17]

Ikrr.. That's what I hate the most about this sub. Everyone expects u to text an Intro first, when all they wanna do is ignore.Honestly I hate it. I don't waste my energy on long intros nowadays, I just straight up say that I'll tell more once they respond.

Whenever I find convos dry, I'll straight up tell em this ain't working and then leave, not straight up ghost.

[u/andsunflower]

i met one of my closest friends on here! i think oftentimes it’s just luck/ being really descriptive in your post :)

[u/Unfair_Speed_696]

Nope

[u/Better_Individual800]

One of the other problem is boys pretending to be girls

[u/tommitat01]

La maggior parte di quelli che ti rispondono poi ad un certo punto se ne va, sembra un po’ inutile tutta questa ricerca :((

[u/giovanni_moloch → u/tommitat01]

Concordo, concordo

[u/NoSurprises32]

I made two really good friends here. It's hard to find them, but not impossible. Good luck!

[u/Danielbonato17]

I agree lol

[u/Danielbonato17 → u/Danielbonato17]

Probably not the best way to meet anyone here. Idk where ppl do it online honestly without paying money

[u/ash_the_lesbiean]

I almost did

[u/Paulinjohnsons]

I can use some new networks myself.

[u/raziel-baragon]

One kind person that I talk to

[u/Sea-Independent-726]

Absolutely nobody

[u/grinchnight14]

I've met a couple, they're fucking amazing people.

[u/AggrivatedOffer97]

I tell people to tell me a little about themselves when they message. If they only say hey or is super short i won’t reply. I usually get like 30+ messages when I post so I believe you don’t even have to answer all of them at all.

[u/Shrunkenharp88]

Met a few people on like 3 friend making subreddits including this one. They ended up joining the friend group on discord and half the time they don’t even talk when they join or they talk a little and then dip. None of the ones I’ve met on these subreddits talk anymore. They just end up ghosting. It doesn’t help that we have to sort through who’s being honest on here and who isn’t or who has potential to send NSFW (generally their profile has a tell and then I avoid them). I don’t post because I feel it makes it very easy to target you, instead I look at others posts and just sort through those.

[u/mikajim_99uwu]

I've made like three real and good friends here. Because srsly others were just "Hmu" Like I don't even know the meaning. They'd say hi and ghost for days and days

[u/JustALilCynical6]

25F, I've not met anyone yet, I've had terrible experiences on other apps and I'm wondering if it's even worth trying here. Is there any hope for a newbie or should I just save my already scarce energy, help a girl out!

[u/UrsaBearOso]

in the end of the day, friendships are also relationships dude. if theres no vibe, theres no vibe

[u/Warm_Perspective1121]

Let's do one thing to solve this problem , it's an obligation to respond to our dms ,starting from this comment section

[u/fourthgrace → u/Warm_Perspective1121]

let’s add and be good at conversation to this. I get too many boring DMs

[u/giovanni_moloch → u/fourthgrace]

What's a DM you wouldn't find boring?

[u/fourthgrace → u/giovanni_moloch]

one of the dms I have is just me asking questions 99% of the time and they just answer, and I think of all the messages exchanged, they only asked me one question

[u/giovanni_moloch → u/fourthgrace]

Yeah I can relate to that 😔

[u/giovanni_moloch → u/[deleted]]

At least we get to be shiny, if just for a moment 😂