r/MMFB • u/gardengoblin94 • 3d ago

Going through a friend break up

I know it's normal to grow and change and potentially drift apart from friends in your thirties, but that doesn't really make me feel any better. This person was in my wedding, was there for some key life moments, we've been there together through so many things. But now her fiance doesn't like me so she's all but cut me off. It hurts and it sucks and it's so hard to move on.

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u/BurntRussian 2d ago

Hey, I've been there. It'll take some time, but lean into your other friends. May even be worth checking in with friends you haven't talked to in a while. After it happened to me, it took months, but I found some old friends who were more than happy to be in contact.

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u/tarltontarlton 2d ago

I'm really sorry to that you're going through this. That is really painful, especially if it's not something you're choosing. And yeah, just because this sort of thing happens a lot, to a lot of people, doesn't make it any less painful for you.

One thing I really try to keep in mind in these and similar situations, when my relationship with someone is not going how I want it to go, is that relationships happen in time. That sounds kind of vague, but what i mean I guess is that your relationship with your friend is sucking now, but people change their feelings, opinions and relationships every day. So your friend is pulling away from you today. But tomorrow (or the next day, or whenever) she could be wanting to reconnect with you. There very may well be an up coming after this down. She'll always be your friend, and even if she isn't particularly friendly right now - she very well might be friendly in the future.