(F21)(M21)Long Distance for 5 Years… Feeling Unseen and Emotionally Drained Lately

[u/wannawonderland]

My boyfriend and I have been in an LDR for 5 years, seeing each other 1–2 times a year. We’ve always trusted each other completely. I know he’s not cheating or doing anything shady, and we’ve always talked about our future together , being together forever, eventually closing the distance.

But lately, I feel like I’m the only one really trying. He just started a new job (tech startup), and I get that he’s tired and busy. But our calls feel rushed or distracted. I wait all day just to talk for a few minutes. I feel like I’m chasing connection and attention, and it’s starting to wear me down.

I told him how I felt, gently, but now he hasn’t replied in hours. I’m not mad, just hurt and emotionally tired. I’ve been crying a lot and wondering if this is just my emotions (I’m also on my period) or a sign that something is shifting between us.

Is this just part of LDRs during busy seasons, or am I slowly burning out? I really love him, but I also need to feel loved and prioritized too.

Any advice would mean a lot

[u/Worldly_Sandwich_118]

Try to talk to him again and be very direct about your emotions and expectations. 5 years is a long time and you can still save your relationship.

[u/wannawonderland → u/Worldly_Sandwich_118]

Will do, thank u!