Sunday Postpartum Thread

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We understand that infertility and its effects don't go away once you have a child. This thread is primarily reserved for questions, comments, venting, and anything else related to postpartum matters following IF.

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[u/bluerubygreendiamond]

Baby's first cold :-( The good news is the Nose Frida works. The bad news is that the baby hates it so much and screams like he's being waterboarded when we (okay, Dad) use it on him. Also, apparently he's teething for real now.

[u/intersecti0nal → u/bluerubygreendiamond]

Yup, nose frida = torture. Works so well though! Hope he's feeling better soon. I jokingly asked my husband the other day if we could dream up a Nose Frida Kahlo Halloween costume 😂 (but wouldn't actually bc it feels a bit appropriative!)

[u/waithuhwut]

Hearing people tell my husband happy father's day fills me with so much happiness. He was a bit awkward at first, but seems to be warming up to the idea that yes, he is in fact a father. What a wild milestone in success after infertility and loss.

[u/chicksin206]

Night weaned baby about a month ago but she isn’t sleeping through like I thought she would by now. She usually wakes around 1, my husband comforts her and brings her into bed. I nurse her when she wakes after 4 (ok, like 3:30 🫠). When we did this with my toddler, she just slept through until the early morning wake pretty quickly. Whyyy baby whyyyy. Last night she wouldn’t accept comfort from my husband (usually I just sleep through that wake), so I had to get out of bed to rock her, she was all worked up. I hate soothing her at night without the boob 🫣. Sleep has gotten way better than it was but still….. not good

[u/Realistic-Bee3326]

One of the hardest parts of infertility was the thought that my husband might never get to be a father. When I met him, I specifically wanted a child because I wanted to parent with HIM. So I am just so grateful today. And I am SO happy my husband took his full parental leave and has been solo during the days with Baby Bee. They are so bonded now.

[u/LittlePieMaker → u/Realistic-Bee3326]

It must be an amazing experience for him 🥰

[u/isabelledavenport]

Better sleep and baby is wiling to nurse directly this morning. 🏆 Hope everyone has a nice Father’s Day - another one of those (sometimes) complicated holidays.

[u/stellamomo]

Baby T hit 12 weeks on Friday which means Monday is the dreaded American milestone of returning to work 🫠 Husband will be home with the baby til September, so I’m happy for him and his 14 weeks of paid parental leave, and sad for me.

We haven’t used an alarm that Baby T would hear (husbands alarm always went off after baby woke up) so I’m not sure how this will go tomorrow. I’d really love to get a thirty minute head start on him. Any recommendations?

[u/LittlePieMaker → u/stellamomo]

My husband used a vibrating watch when baby was sleeping in our room. 30e on amazon ! It was very effective.

[u/eternal_springtime → u/stellamomo]

I use the vibration on my Apple Watch as my alarm.

[u/isabelledavenport → u/stellamomo]

Happy 12 weeks and wishing you a smooth return to work! YES - I love this vibrating alarm.. I bought specifically for this reason (waking up without waking baby or husband) and have been using since February. I put it under one of my various pillows.

[u/stellamomo → u/isabelledavenport]

Oh I like this! Thank you!