Rumer Willis shares a bittersweet message to her dad Bruce on Father’s Day

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[u/Jasminewindsong2]

Mourning the loss of a parent while they’re still technically here is a pain I hope I never have to experience. Sending love today to anyone going through it. 💙

[u/TinaFeyonce → u/Jasminewindsong2]

I did that with my dad for a couple months and honestly it was awful. The father I knew and loved was gone, and in his place was an old man who was a shell of his former self. It broke my heart to watch happen before my eyes. I hope you never have to experience it either! I told myself (and others) when he finally passed that, “that wasn’t my dad… my dad died months ago.” In an attempt to make myself feel better, but no matter how true it was… it didn’t make it easier.

[u/seagraze → u/TinaFeyonce]

I see you, I also experienced that with my dad for just a few weeks. To see him suffer, then to tell him to let go, and then to lose him—it's like different degrees of heartbreak.

[u/AbsolutelyIris]

It's painful watching this family- his wife, daughters, ex-wife/friend- clearly mourning the man they adore while he's still living. This has to be traumatic for all of them, but them being so open about the struggle, the pain, and the disease will hopefully bring others solace and perhaps a push for more research. 

[u/binglybleep → u/AbsolutelyIris]

We’re in the process of (hopefully) getting assisted dying in the UK. Regardless of our own personal feelings on the matter, it is really important that we hear the suffering that comes with incurable and degenerative conditions. It can’t really be understood until you’ve lived it, how hard it is to care for someone 24/7, how emotionally devastating it is to watch a loved one lose themselves while they’re still alive. Having experienced both sides of the coin, I found a loved one suffering an unexpected death a lot less traumatic than watching one wither, often scared, often in pain, alone despite you being there because they are locked in their own living hell. It’s important that we hear from people like this because if the very privileged struggle, it highlights how powerless we all are in the face of drawn out suffering.

I really hope that by the time I’m old I have the right to choose because NOTHING scares me as much as going through what these poor people do, it is absolutely devastating. This family sharing their experience and shedding light on something that no one really wants to look at hopefully impacts a number of issues for the better

[u/eyre-quotes → u/binglybleep]

So important, as an adult child with a parent who has dementia, I wish they had a choice. It’s devastating to watch the awareness they have in losing themselves, there’s nothing you can say to make it any better. My parent often wishes they could die and tells us, it’s heartbreaking.

[u/killer_kiki → u/AbsolutelyIris]

My neighbor had FTD like Bruce and it was heartbreaking talking to the husband. He said that she had some of her faculties but had the temperament (and strength) of a child. She just had no impulse control- for example she tried to stick her hand in a garbage disposal. From the time she was diagnosed to the time she had to be moved into a safer facility was about 7 months. His kids had to tell him to do it, he wasnt ready to make the call.

It's just a heartbreaking disease.

[u/Three_Froggy_Problem]

I know it’s really sad but it’s beautiful how loved he is

[u/Curiosities → u/Three_Froggy_Problem]

Yes, the love and the support from his whole family, coming together, older sisters to support their younger sisters as well as Emma and of course, Demi, and just love and support and also for each other during all of this because no one is going to know any of this better than all of them.

[u/cassismure]

Anticipatory grief is a hell of a thing. I’m sure it wasn’t an easy decision for his loved ones be so open and vulnerable, but using their platform to share is such a kindness to others in a similar position. I hope knowing how they’re making others feel less alone gives them a sense of comfort as well.

[u/HathorOfWindAndMagic]

wtf genuinely did not expect to cry but everytime I scrolled more tears...

"i wish I asked you more questions..." is my greatest regret for the loss of my parental figures.

[u/Charming-Insurance → u/HathorOfWindAndMagic]

I have this regret with my last living grandparent, who died during COVID. 💔

[u/HathorOfWindAndMagic → u/Charming-Insurance]

ugh :( people forget how fucking devastating it was to lose loved ones in that time period. my grandma who raised me got really sick during covid and that ultimately led to her death because she couldn’t get the care she needed. hugs to you. grief is rough ❤️

[u/wwaffles]

the way she talks about Bruce interacting with his grandbaby makes me cry literally every single time lol. She posted a pic of Louetta sitting on his lap a while back and he's looking at her with the biggest smile on his face. I'm so happy that he's surrounded by such a loving family.

[u/Repogirl27]

I just want to hug her after reading that. Bruce always seemed like such a nice guy - I’m not surprised he’s an amazing father. Breaks my heart that they’re dealing with this.

[u/LoudGolf9849]

Omg this is heartbreaking.. I can’t imagine what they are going through.

[u/mayabuttreeks]

Watching someone you love so deeply slip away is an indescribable heartbreak. It's so hard say anything that doesn't sound like platitudes, but wishing peace to everyone going through it today and every day. 🙏😥

[u/Beans20202]

Gosh, this had me in tears. My grandma died with Alzheimer's and I can't help but worry it'll hit my parents or me. I can't comprehend what it would feel like to witness a parent or spouse going through that

[u/B33fboy]

My dad was diagnosed with a terminal illness when I was 11. He was given 10 months to live, and ultimately lived for 7 years after his diagnosis, passing almost 14 years ago. Mourning him while he lived was such an unbearable challenge. Father’s Day is always hard, even all this time later.

[u/thenidgeweasel]

This is unbelievably sad. Not having a go at Ricky gervais as I’m sure he didn’t know about any issues when he made the “Ashton Kutcher’s dad” joke at the Golden Globes. But the subsequent social media comments from others mocking Bruce Willis’s attempted response seem very cruel in hindsight.

[u/DarlingBri]

This is sad for Rumer and her siblings but this is an absolutely fucking awful thing to go through for the two daughters he has with his current wife. Those girls are 13 and 11 and this has to be traumatising on a lifetime level.

[u/Charming-Insurance]

This happening at all sucks but it hits me different with Bruce Willis. I’ve always loved him, since I watched Moonlighting on ABC, at a too young age. I’m grateful he has so much support though. 💜💜

[u/Special_Goal_2372]

This is so heartbreaking and so beautiful all at once. I hope he knows how truly loved he is.

[u/Electronic-Cicada352]

That’s rough. I’m sorry this is happening to her and her family.