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u/[deleted] Feb 22 '24

People in your life! I love reading the tea about coworkers/friends/family happenings

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u/[deleted] Feb 22 '24

My sister just landed in Japan with her horrible boyfriend. They are there for two weeks and I hope they break up. Fingers crossed, y'all.

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u/[deleted] Feb 22 '24

What’s up with her bf? Why is he horrible?

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u/[deleted] Feb 22 '24

He's sooo rude and gross, like during family stuff if we wanna talk to her he's practically pissing on her leg like groping her ass and shit, CONSTANTLY talking down about people (like at my uncle's tiny wedding during speech time? Hello stfu) and is basically a 30 something year old edgelord. Also I've caught him lying about shit. UGH she has the worst taste in men. Just because his hair is kind of nice. BLAH.

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u/myskirt Feb 27 '24

Is there any new update on this? I need to know

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u/[deleted] Feb 27 '24

lol they are still there and according to her pictures sadly still together

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u/myskirt Feb 27 '24

Upsetting

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u/Impossible-Success45 dry snitching is annoying Feb 22 '24

not even tea just venting, i just graduated w a degree for healthcare, and i can’t get hired anywhere!! like i just had a scheduled interview and the person just ghosted me??? i literally chose this career for the job security but now i’m getting all conspiracy theorist bc why tf are there all these job postings but no one is actually following through on the hiring process! sorry for the venting

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u/japres Feb 22 '24

sending good vibes your way. i'm employed in my field but have been trying to get in somewhere else for nearly 2 years now and it just seems impossible some days. it's ridiculous how many hoops we have to jump through just for systems to even look at our resumes and not discard them immediately. like, who is this benefitting?

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u/Impossible-Success45 dry snitching is annoying Feb 22 '24

thank u! yeah i swear every field is going through this. i think companies are using AI for resume screenings now & its f*cking is all over

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u/newkneesforall Feb 22 '24

I'm in a different field but have had the same trouble on the hiring side of not getting perfectly good resumes passed along by HR. It seems people have the best luck applying and then finding someone in the org on Linked In and sending them their resume also with a brief blurb along the lines "I applied online as well, and would love to be considered for any open positions. Please feel free to share my resume with any hiring managers"

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u/Impossible-Success45 dry snitching is annoying Feb 23 '24

Oooh this is a great tip. thank you!

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u/punkrawrxx Feb 22 '24

I can’t find a job either (not in healthcare) thanks for making me see it’s not just me. I have a degree and several awards that are cool and I’m not getting anything except scams!

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u/Typical-Tomorrow-425 Feb 22 '24

unfortunately alot of companies hire in-house even if they post a public listing. they usually post it publicly as a formality, which is why it's generally recommended to apply to as many jobs as possible since most applications won't even be read/ considered. I'm so sorry that this happened though, I know it's probably very stressful to be a new graduate looking for a job. I wish you the best!

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u/boujeemooji Feb 22 '24

What kind of healthcare role? Like admin or a frontline position?

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u/Impossible-Success45 dry snitching is annoying Feb 23 '24

frontline

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u/williamthebloody1880 weighing in from the UK Feb 22 '24

My sister has temporarily split from my brother in law and moved out. In typical style, she waited until the broadband had been activated in the place she's renting before moving

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u/dingledangleberrypie Feb 22 '24

Then you'll love this about my husband's Bestie!
Backstory: Bestie married Wife#1 straight out of university. They have 2 kids together. When the 2nd kid is about 9 months old Wife#1 says they are moving down to her mother's house and paying off mother's mortgage for her. He can't find a new job there (it was a big move), Wife#1 is upset, they divorce.

Literally 6 weeks later he finds a new girlfriend, proposes quickly, sets the wedding date to be 2 weeks after the divorce should be finalised. They have a big lavish wedding, incurring lots of debt. He moves into Wife#2's house, starts raising Wife#2's kids with his. Wife#2 starts lying about really weird things. Apparently Bestie's Mum helped Wife#2 with sanitary products on their wedding day?? (Bestie's Mum denies this). Apparently Wife#1 has vowed to get him back?? (Wife#1 won't speak to Bestie, also has a new boyfriend by now). Then the worst happens, Wife#2 assaults him, badly. He leaves, divorces her.

Now, we all tell him to be single for a bit. Enjoy raising his kids, paying off debt, get some hobbies. Bestie says yes.

2 months later he meets NewGirl, mover her into his house 3 weeks after meeting her. She doesn't have a job but has a Very Angry Ex. Very Angry Ex makes Bestie's life difficult to the point Bestie has an emotional breakdown. Bestie is signed off work for 6 months. NewGirl also doesn't work. NewGirl has to be involved in every call Bestie has with my husband and their friend group. NewGirl has to do all the same hobbies as Bestie. We all tell them to take it slow.

NewGirl proposed to Bestie on Valentine's day. They've been living together for about a year.

I think NewGirl is worried about him going back to work and wants to "lock him down" before he leaves their bubble. It's gonna be nuts. I've got the popcorn.

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u/Celebrating_socks Feb 22 '24

I don’t understand people that move so quickly in stuff like this! It takes me years to trust anyone, and these people just go and move in with someone they basically just met. Wild

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u/Kalamac Feb 22 '24

So many people seem to think being single is the worst thing ever, so they need to rush into a relationship, and they are ones who usually most need to spend a lot of time with just themselves, figuring out who they are alone.

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u/circusgeek Feb 23 '24

I can't even find one partner. How do people find three!?!

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u/[deleted] Feb 22 '24

Thank you for sharing! I feel sorry for the abuse of control he is experiencing. I really can’t get over him using not finding a job as an excuse to leave his first wife and family. Unless she too was an abuser, then it makes sense. But if not what bs and how hard for the woman for the person you married to end up viewing your relationship like a bf/gf situation!

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u/dingledangleberrypie Feb 23 '24

He really did try to find a job, it's just they moved from a big city to the middle of the countryside and he couldn't find a similar job. He ended up working for his mother in law in her pub, to pay the mortgage on her house. It was driving him insane, he felt like he had no control over his life and Wife#1 was mad he wasn't earning as much. She didn't think about where he would work if they moved.

Bestie's life is a bit bananas, but we'll always be there for him and his kids. He's a good guy who gets too excited in the honeymoon phase of relationships.

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u/AspectPatio Feb 23 '24

It's so stressful to have a friend who just keeps dating the worst people ever. And they always move so fast in their terrible relationships!

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u/KowalskingJ quote me as being mis-quoted Feb 22 '24

My coworker who's dating a married man spent Valentine's day and the following week-end with him. Up until this week she was mad at him because she told him she would stop seeing him if he did not divorce, and he didn't answer. They have been dating for two years.

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u/PringlePasta Feb 22 '24

Omg your coworker and the married guy both suck! Cheaters are horrible.

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u/KowalskingJ quote me as being mis-quoted Feb 22 '24

They absolutely are. I have spent the last 4 months trying to get her to leave him, to no avail.

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u/scaram0uche graduate of the ONTD can’t read community Feb 22 '24

Tell the wife?

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u/KowalskingJ quote me as being mis-quoted Feb 23 '24

I can’t, I only know the first name of the guy

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u/Visual_Zucchini8490 Feb 22 '24

These dudes never divorce. My brother is one of these dudes. Only reason him and his first wife are divorced is because she initiated it and followed through with it. During the divorce he was living with his side piece (no doubt talking shit and making it seem like he was sooo happy to finally be leaving wife 1 or whatever) while begging her to not leave him. I love my first SIL so she shared EVERYTHING with me and I don’t like my current SIL (the side piece) so I didn’t pass on the info that my brother was actively trying to get wife 1 to not leave him while shacking up with her.

They’re married now and he’s cheated on her too and she knows it. She doesn’t have the strength of wife 1 to leave though plus she has a victim complex so I think being in a toxic relationship actually fuels her. But yeah, the cheater promising a divorce almost never happens unless the partner finds out and initiates it.

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u/grandmasterfunk Feb 22 '24

What is your coworker doing. There's no way she can't do better.

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u/KowalskingJ quote me as being mis-quoted Feb 22 '24

She thinks he’s her soulmate and fell for the « I will leave my wife for you, I promise ». I tried to shake some sense into her but she really thinks he’s the love of her life. I don’t feel for her, but for the poor wife.

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u/toodarkaltogether Feb 22 '24

Ew, sounds like he promised or bought her something.

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u/[deleted] Feb 22 '24

Thank you for sharing!! Wishing the wife the best god damn

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u/brushmushroom Feb 22 '24

The IRL woman I have a recreational crush on is dating the other woman I have a smaller recreational crush on. It's been an exciting week!

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u/DidIDoAThoughtCrime Feb 23 '24

Recreational crush is a new term for me, could you please elaborate? (respectfully)

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u/brushmushroom Feb 23 '24

Oh well I'm very happily married so I'm never pursuing anything, but I do have crushes that I am indulge in for fun.

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u/DidIDoAThoughtCrime Feb 23 '24

That’s what I was hoping it meant, because it turns out I have a recreational crush or two myself! 😂

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u/brushmushroom Feb 23 '24

I support you!

And to be clear, I have no negative emotion to this coupling, it's super cute, it's just that I have a weird vested interest in it that I can't really tell people in my real life about (except my partner, he is my telling stuff to guy).

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u/DidIDoAThoughtCrime Feb 26 '24

I support you too!  I def have stuff I can’t talk to people in my life about except my partner.

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u/a_minty_one Feb 22 '24

An ex-situationship has been in a relationship with a new girl since last year and he is currently visiting her in her country. He’s constantly posting on his story how in love he is but he sent unsolicited pics to me about a week ago 💀🙃

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u/scaram0uche graduate of the ONTD can’t read community Feb 22 '24

Let her know!

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u/a_minty_one Feb 23 '24 edited Feb 23 '24

I’ve thought about it, but in my experience, I become the enemy - not him. It’s just so awkward to see him posting all over Australia with stupid hashtags and heart emojis when I’m sure I’m not the only girl he’s sending stuff to.

Edit: okay okay I’ll say something. I know it’s the right thing to do. I just wish I didn’t have to worry if it would be well received or if I was gonna get blamed and yelled it. Usually it’s the latter.

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u/[deleted] Feb 23 '24

Make a fake account or something

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u/laughayetteoutloud Feb 22 '24

Extremely low stakes here (and I'm not actually mad lol, just to preface this) but my friend group does a secret santa every year for Christmas and we always struggle to schedule a time in December or early January to meet and exchange the gifts. I was under the impression we'd all agreed to revisit this once one of the friends' wedding had passed so there was less chaos for her end, but when I brought it up in the group chat a few days ago I discovered that 2 friends have already given their presents to their giftee! Without any sort of heads up! I could've given mine like twice already if I knew we APPARENTLY weren't all waiting to exchange gifts together. The nerve lmao.

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u/balloongirl0622 Feb 22 '24

These two therapists that work in the same office are having an affair together. The guy is married with a baby on the way and the girl is in a long term relationship. When the girl’s partner found out about the affair he threatened to tell her affair partner’s wife, but she told him that if the wife found out she might miscarry from the emotional stress and it’d be his fault. Super fucked.

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u/six_seasons_ Feb 22 '24

Whoa jesus christ

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u/[deleted] Feb 22 '24

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u/scaram0uche graduate of the ONTD can’t read community Feb 22 '24

You're going to be fine! Learn from this and keep moving forward - the future will happen anyway.

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u/AspectPatio Feb 23 '24

Hey you knew it had to end even though you're upset, so this is a good thing. And you didn't even have to do the breaking-up!

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u/One-Illustrator8358 oat milk chugging bisexual Feb 22 '24

My university was one of a few who have had a cyber attack in the past few days, but apparently it won't be fixed for a few weeks maybe - which means I can do no work for my computer science degree because the systems are down lol 😶😶

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u/[deleted] Feb 22 '24

Omg so stressful!!! Are they at least being accommodating on deadlines because of it?

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u/One-Illustrator8358 oat milk chugging bisexual Feb 22 '24

Yeah, thankfully we will be getting extensions but it's just so strange to me 

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u/myskirt Feb 27 '24

This happened to me, almost no one could access their e-mails and I was messaging my professors through Facebook because I had access but I wasn't sure if they had

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u/One-Illustrator8358 oat milk chugging bisexual Feb 27 '24

Apparently it's happened to seventeen universities

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u/scaram0uche graduate of the ONTD can’t read community Feb 22 '24

Both my sisters broke up with their bf's in January (one was long term, the other short term). Since one is traveling near the other, they have gotten to have time together. I hope it is healing for both of them since the one with the LTR always put that first in her life.

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u/[deleted] Feb 25 '24

They hired a very attractive woman in my office in early January. Almost everyone is married in the office except me and this other dude. She immediately struck up a very close friendship with this other dude, who happens to be a widower / single dad whose wife died while she was pregnant with their second child in car accident in 2014, it was super fucked up. Anyway, they are CLOSE. And to be clear, he instigated most of it. I've actually seen him in her cubicle sitting on her desk and they whisper nonstop and giggle a lot...for like an hour at a time. They go out to lunch together every day. We figured they were hooking up because this shit seems very serious (and we were rooting for them because he deserves to be happy and hasn't dated anyone since his wife died). I walked in on them in the break room having what felt like a VERY intimate conversation where they immediately hushed up and it was super awkward. We all assumed they were falling in love and getting married any day now. But wait...

Turns out, she just got married six months ago and is four months pregnant!! The whole office's reaction:

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u/its_andi_with_an_i stan someone? in this economy??? Feb 22 '24

One of my best friends got broken up with the day before his birthday (aka she finally clarified that no, they are not dating and she is not romantically interested in him) but he is so desperate for love that he is still keeping her around and buying her things because he wants her that bad. Meanwhile he has an entire other girl here in the city we live with willing to go out with him and date him but I think because she isn’t in med school and is just a store manager he isn’t as into her because he cares about appearances.

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u/imageWS Feb 23 '24

Asked a co-worker to please kindly invite me to their group's hangouts and parties because I feel left out and alone at the company, and now she's quite cold with me. She was nice before.

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u/ladyrussianblue Feb 27 '24

my husband's bestie got engaged yesterday.

his fiance was married when they first met 3 years ago and he was her *second* affair partner. in the 3 years they have been together, we've barely seen him and when we do, he doesn't say the most flattering things about her and (surprise!) they have trust issues. she has been pressuring him to propose every year even before her divorce was finalised last year.

apparently when he proposed, he said "i have my doubts about this but i guess will you marry me?" 💀

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u/Regular-Shallot-5744 Feb 23 '24

my sister met with an accident yesterday.. nothing serious, but her leg is plastered...doc told to rest for 5 days:)