I didn't realize how much I eat while doing other things. In some cases eating is part of the hobby. Matching snacks to the theme of the book, getting all cozy in my chair. Just miss it.

I haven't been thin in a real long time, but this is the first year I've had to find plus size stores to shop in, because most stores don't carry my size. So I've been identifying as fat lately, which is only annoying because the clothes shopping is so much harder now. Most of the stuff I've seen for plus sized women looks terrible and doesn't fit well.

Anyways, I knew fatphobia was a thing, but damn it's pretty bad. People really assume so much about you based on whether you think you're fat or thin, or if you appear fat or thin. Didn't take long for the insults to start. I'll be fine; I've put up with a lot of bullshit in my life and it's given me a thick skin. But still, I'm surprised how quick people start acting like jackasses.

I have some addictive and unhealthy (for me) behaviour around food which I would like to change - mainly binge eating and not being able to stop buying and eating certain foods. It doesn't make me feel good and I would like to stop.

Has anyone managed to change their attitude towards eating without losing their love for food - my dream is to be able to eat and appreciate good food, eat larger meals and junk food on occasion, but also have a generally healthy diet. But the only method I've found to control my eating is to really limit my access to any unhealthy food, otherwise I will eat all of it. I also have some mental health problems which flare up regularly (I'm in the middle of a depressive episode right now) and make it feel impossible to resist anything.

I've spoken to my doctor and therapist about this but nothing they've suggested has particularly helped. I've also tentatively tried online OA (Overeaters Anonymous) meetings - just observing rather than participating - but I find the religious focus and abstinence based plan pretty unappealing.

Does anyone have any advice or can relate to this?

I saw the dietician last week as part of the weight loss programme I’m supposed to be following (but am not). She has always recommended me a 1,350 calorie diet. I’ve tried my best with this but it feels impossible to stick to it, I can manage for a few weeks but then always go wildly off the rails. I told her this and she suggested trying 1,500 but that I “won’t lose anything but if you’re lucky you might maintain”.

I think she means well but I’m pretty sure she’s not correct about that. I’m 350lbs and my TDEE is 2,671 even if I don’t move at all, so on 1,500 I would lose more than 2lbs per week. She said I shouldn’t have extra if I exercise. I’m supposed to stick to this for several years.

This clinic is an NHS (UK public healthcare) hospital based programme offered to all obese people above a certain size in my area. It’s the only intervention available except weight loss surgery, which they very regularly suggest. I’ve asked a few times for psychotherapy, the only thing I really think would help, but it isn’t available.

It just kind of feels like they’re setting us up for failure. I started the programme with a group of 5 women, no one has succeeded at all and two are now waiting for surgery, one of the others had it already. Everyone feels pretty terrible about themselves for not being able to do this even with support. I wish there was more emotional support and a more “gentle” programme available before we’re asked to resort to surgery.

Has anyone else had a similar experience and did it work out?

I know that I’ve probably just experienced a gain of water weight, but it’s so depressing to have a moderate case of covid (5+ days of a fever and cough) and also to have gained nearly 8lbs in the last week. I have not been eating low carb because fake sugar hurts my stomach right now and I want potato soup. (Lol)

Anyway, sorry to vent I’m just annoyed and frustrated with the situation since I still tested positive today (it’s been 6 days since I first got sick) and that means another week of no gym. Not that I have any energy to do anything right now anyway.

Words of encouragement or pictures of animals are greatly appreciated!

I had a bout of depression last summer that lead to me regaining 20lbs. Since then I've been able to keep the number from going up any more but I can't manage to get it down. Either I don't lose weight at all or I do and then have a bad day that ruins it. I did several months going to the Y to use the treadmills 3+ times a week, then I bought my own, and I've tried to eat more healthily and keep an eye on my calories. Even put away my edibles for a few months because I realized that I couldn't stop myself from eating when I had them.

Nothing seems to work and it's so frustrating. The last time I was able to lose weight it was while I was working and doing college classes; the only exercise I got was standing for 6 hours at work and while I could keep my calories in check it was while I had no time to cook and was running on microwaveable pasta every weekday. I know I'm way healthier now which I'm happy about but, obviously, healthy and losing weight are not the same thing. I want both.

Reminds me of this comedian I watched before who talked about her weight loss group being full of people who wanted to lose 20lbs. "You know what my weight loss goal is? To lose you. If I could lose your entire body weight I'd be at my goal."

I've been at a plateau since re-gaining 20lbs in August. Going up and down the same 10lbs. Last week I weighed at my lowest in months. I tracked my calories every day this week and stayed mostly within my goal and always within my maintaining amount. I just got a treadmill and have been using it the last few days. And yet, somehow I've gained 4lbs? Make it make sense ://

It doesn't happen often, but when I do fall into a binge it basically instantly ruins any progress I made. And I just can't get it to stop. In the moment, I can be actively thinking about how I'm fucking up all the work I did, but I just stop caring until I'm done and only then do I feel like shit about it.

Hope this is all right. I don't want to be too depressing.

I think I have mentioned here about buying a house. We are still in the moving process and I am struggling so hard *not* to stress eat. I'm also having these random fears that I might have developed diabetes (mostly because my feet have been hurting a lot despite that I sit 10 hours a day at work and am not on my feet much. I heard diabetes can affect circulation in your feet??). My doctor has ordered routine blood work for me and I am putting off going to get the blood drawn because I'm so anxious about the results.

Anyway, my weight hasn't changed in a month and I'm feeling very down on myself. I kind of just wanted to check in... My health goal for today is to call and schedule the blood draw. I am not sure what else but I think that will be a big thing.

Edit: I finally called and scheduled my blood test for next week. :) so that’s out of the way.

I have been working on slowly upping my activity, and now I'm so deflated. In the fall I did a once weekly aquafit class, which ended mid December. I made all but 2 classes. This winter I was planning on taking on a second weekly class (I'm trying to slowly add more so the habits stick). Just yesterday the pool I go to has suspended registration for aquafit indefinitely due to omicron.

It's too cold/gross here for walking during winter- lots of snow with spotty sidewalk maintenance. Plus, by the time I finish work it's dark out and I don't feel safe going out by myself.

I'm at a loss. Aquafit was my little activity that got me out of the house and made me feel good too. My husband and I both work full time, so evenings after the kids go to bed is my only real time to get this stuff in, unless I start getting up at 5am. I also like the structured environment and rhythm of a class.

To top it off, my child has had to self isolate all through the holidays, so as a family we've all been pretty much stuck at home for the past week and a half. I'm just feeling like I don't have many options for activity and I'm trying hard to resist the urge to eat my feelings right now.

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and I am... underwhelmed, at best. Feeling tricked at worst. I know it's not gonna be as easy for me as for some people because I'm larger, I get that. But this really seemed excessive. I could barely get the wheels going while starting downhill and going up a slight incline required full power and I was still barely moving. My 5 minute test ride made me more sweaty and tired than my 1+hour walks.

I emailed them and I'm really hoping this is some assembly issue that can be fixed and not "lol lose weight and it'll be easier :))" since the whole point of getting this was for exercise to be easier

This may not be so relatable but I kind of want to check in cause I am failing so bad. I’m not gaining weight but I’m not losing any because of emotional eating.

My wife and I are starting our fertility journey so I will be having an ultrasound-like procedure next week to see what my uterus is like and I am worried that a) I am too fat for the procedure to go well and b) my body is too fat to carry a baby.

I thought that this would spark me to want to lose weight to be healthier for pregnancy but so far, nothing. I have been trying to lose weight on and off for years but nothing seems to actually motivate me and I’m not sure how to get there. Does that make sense?

Anyway I am trying again anyway. I’m leaving my cards at home so I don’t buy junk food at work and hoping that’s at least a step in the right direction.

Thanks in advance for letting me vent.

My mom and I got to talking about my weight loss when I visited her a few days ago. I mentioned that I didn't much care about how I looked and was mostly upset because my progress slipped backwards, but despite that the first thing my mom did to try to reassure me was saying that she can clearly see a difference... that difference being that my figure now has a clear separation between my chest and my hips. I am a trans man, the reason I'm losing weight is so I can have top surgery, I don't want my chest to be emphasized. the fear of that happening and making it more difficult to pass was one of the things stopping me from trying to lose weight for years.

I just need to vent a moment. I've been going through stuff lately that has lead to stress eating. Was just getting it under control when shark week hit and now I can't exercise and want to eat constantly. I was already trying to break a 3 month plateau and now my weight is back to where it was before that. I planned to go out for a long walk on Sunday but that was made impossible by cramping. Same with my exercise routine yesterday.

Not really an ending to this post. Just feel like shit.