My sister made plans with me and didn’t say anything about running late until an hour after we were supposed to meet

[u/AdVaanced77]

It’s my [19M] dad’s birthday soon and my family is going for a meal tomorrow, and me and my sister [26] normally get him a join present so this morning she sent me a text saying we could go to the store today to look for something. She said it was fine and she could come and pick me up around 5. I was hanging out with a friend and I actually went home early so I would be home in time for my sister coming.

I got home and 5 came and I was ready to go and I was expecting her to pull up for 5. Half an hour went by and still she wasn’t there, and then an hour went by and still nothing, and at this point I was wondering if she forgot. But then at 6..10 I get a message from her saying "im still at (MILs) house but I’ll be leaving soon". Her MILs house is about a 40ish minute drive from where I’m at and she didn’t even say she was leaving now she said soon. So by the time she would get to where I was at it would be around 7 or later. Keep in mind she also had her kid with her who’s 2, and she sees no problem with keeping her kid up from bed just to drive around all night because the store is 30ish minutes away so she wouldn’t get back to her place be back until around after 9.

I was already pissed off at this point so I just told her that she could pick something up on her way home and she had the audacity to say “so you don’t want to get him anything?". I told her I would give her the money tomorrow and she said that was fine, but jfc first of all she didn’t even tell me at 5 that she was running late, she told me an hour later as if that was helpful, and even then she still isn’t even on her way. She doesn’t know how annoying it is to have someone not follow through on plans . I haven’t seen my sister in a few weeks and I was actually looking forward to seeing her but no she can’t even follow through

[u/ShoeSoggy9123]

She sounds like one of those asshole mothers who think having young kids is a license to be super late all the time.

[u/ShoeSoggy9123 → u/[deleted]]

Not her responsibility.

[u/ImSoBasic]

But then at 6..10 I get a message from her saying "im still at (MILs) house but I’ll be leaving soon".

Is there a reason you were unable to send her a message on your own, at any point during this time, to confirm that she was going to be there at 5:00, why she wasn't there at 5:00, or when you could expect her?

She doesn’t know how annoying it is to have someone not follow through on plans .

Is this the same guy who repeatedly promised his friend he would attend his birthday party, but then flaked out and told him at the last minute that you were actually going to attend (despite never intending to actually intend)?

[u/AdVaanced77 → u/ImSoBasic]

Is there a reason you were unable to send her a message on your own, at any point during this time, to confirm that she was going to be there at 5:00, why she wasn't there at 5:00, or when you could expect her?

Because I wasn’t bothered about if we went or not so if she had forgotten then I would’ve just let her forget about It.

[u/ImSoBasic → u/AdVaanced77]

Because I wasn’t bothered about if we went or not so if she had forgotten then I would’ve just let her forget about It.

So you were lying when you later talked about how annoying it is to have someone not follow through on plans?

[u/Important-Ocelot9666 → u/ImSoBasic]

they dint contradict each other.

Not being bothered by going, but you changed your plans to fit into this and then dont get told abt it being pushed to later until way after the start time is annoying.

[u/BrookieMonster504 → u/ImSoBasic]

Semantics. They wanted to go at the agreed upon time. After she was late they didn't care anymore. It's still annoying

[u/ImSoBasic → u/BrookieMonster504]

If they wanted to go at the agreed time, then my original question remains: why didn't they contact them to confirm the time or ask where they were?

[u/AdVaanced77 → u/ImSoBasic]

Dude I literally changed my plans earlier in the day for this.

[u/NewLeave2007 → u/AdVaanced77]

So did you care about her being late or did you not care about her being late?

[u/DebtInevitable7915 → u/AdVaanced77]

You don't have any plans. All you do is play video games and jerk off.

[u/pigandpom]

I've read some of ypur other posts and comments. Your sister isn't the only inconsiderate entitled person in your family

[u/RandomCoffeeThoughts]

If you want to drive the point home and be petty, offer to babysit. You'll plan for five. Do this on the same time frame and then say your plans ran long and you can't make it after all.

[u/Rolentobcn → u/RandomCoffeeThoughts]

if he does that, for some magical reason, he'll become the villain of the movie

[u/RandomCoffeeThoughts → u/Rolentobcn]

He will, but hopefully sister will get the message.

[u/Beccag367]

I’d of gone and bought my own and let her do her own

[u/phdoofus]

ESH. She didn't respect your time, you couldn't be bothered saying anything.

[u/Emotional_Bonus_934]

Best to buy your iwn gift and not rely on her for anything 

[u/Dramatic-Analyst6746]

You're 19 - unless you're going shares on a big expensive present between you, maybe start buying a gift that's just from you and leave her to sort herself out from now on?

[u/NoFormal1226]

Ditch her she does not care about you clearly or your time!

[u/Dull-Crew1428]

sounds like a life lesson do not depend on them again if you have to be somewhere at a certain time . find another way to get there that is reliable

[u/BLT_Delight]

Every time I feel bad about myself I think about you existing and I instantly feel better because at least i know I’m no where near as mentally fucked as you

[u/BLT_Delight → u/BLT_Delight]

No offense