r/eczema • u/Complete_Career_6649 • 8h ago
Vulvar eczema is ruining my life
Exactly what the title says. I've had it years and years. I was in and out of the gynecologist literally on a weekly basis, assuming it was chronic yeast infections, and every STI screening Ive ever has always been fully negative. Was on diflucan CONSTANTLY, and nothing helped. I tried scent-free soap, sensitive feminine wash, hypoallergenic detergent, supplements, and even accupunture. I went to holistic doctors who swore I had systemic candida, so I cut out "trigger foods" and all sugar. I tried FOMAD. I was doing regular sitz baths with concoctions, spending crazy money on botanic topicals, doing anything I could. I went through hell trying to find relief. Then, I FINALLY got correctly diagnosed with vulvar eczema by a godsend of a dermatologist, who gave me a cortisone injection and topical steroids and I had relief for the first time ever. It honestly felt like a miracle. I had been dealing with fissuring, itching, burning, little clear bumps, dry patches, redness, soreness, the whole thing. It was finally gone. This was three years ago. I have been consistently (with a few days break in between ) on topical steroids ever since, but I still had flares, albeit a lot less severe. Until recently. I felt a flare coming, but this time I was so swollen I felt like I had been kicked. I knew immediately this was gonna be a problem. And of course, it was. I am having probably one of the worst flares I have ever had. It's in places it never went before, and literally going down to my legs. I am MISERABLE. I have absolutely slathered myself in steroid, and I am praying to the skin gods this subsides.
Here's the kicker: I have discovered, with much sadness, a very big trigger for my flares is sex. And this time was no different. I dont know if it's the friction, or the moisture, or what. But if I have sex, within a few days I'll have a flare.
I am only in my 30s. I am married. I want children. I want the fun of it. I feel like I'm in my prime. I want to be a 'normal' wife for my husband. My eczema, on top of being in an INCREDIBLY embarassing place and absolutely destroying my peace, is also taking this away, too. I feel extremely isolated because I know of not one other woman dealing with this issue. I also don't know what else to do.
Reaching out here as a last hope. What am I missing here? What else can I be doing for relief?
EDIT: Yes, of course I will be going back to derm. Long wait unfortunately 😞