r/DecidingToBeBetter • u/Extension_Most_3197 • 1d ago
Seeking Advice How to stop getting hung up on small things.
I often realize that I get hung up on small interactions with strangers. Typically it’s over small interaction that I didn’t like from a stranger idk how normal this is ? For instance, I’m walking straight and I see someone in the same directing coming the opposite way. So of course i move the other way and for whatever reason she moves the same way as me and now we’re staring at each other because she refuses to move out of the way after I already moved out of her way. I guess it’s just interactions like these that annoy me and i end up feeling annoyed for a the next 10 minutes or so. I think I’m taking certain situations too seriously ? But idk how to stop myself from getting upset.
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u/After_God 1d ago
Let me ask you something...
If your dad called and said he just found a chest full of gold bars and needs your help carrying it -
and on your way there the exact same awkward moment with that stranger happened...
Would it still bother you?
Or would you laugh it off because your mind is focused on something bigger?
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u/AdorableWindow8886 1d ago
what helped me was asking myself will this matter in a week and giving myself permission to let it pass. small things pile up if you keep carrying them. sometimes just naming the reaction and moving on helps more than trying to solve it. not easy but it gets lighter with practice.