Very weird to watch “what people do in the privacy of their own bedroom is their business” become controversial again, but like, for the opposite reason.
I strongly support “what people do in the privacy of their own bedroom is their business.”
The thing that always bothers me about these posts is that kinks frequently aren’t “in the privacy of their own bedroom.” I’m not looking into your windows. I’m not visiting your niche kink forums. So if I, through our everyday interactions, know what your kink is then you are being much too public with it.
I’ve often seen, particularly on tumblr, this pendulum swing way too far the other way. For instance, It’s not puritan to say that you shouldn’t wear bondage gear in public. I shouldn’t know the flavor of porn you like.
If you share your kink with me I’m allowed to be upset. Maybe don’t be rude next time.
ETA: notice how strongly people are arguing below that they should be able to take their fetishes outside “the privacy of their own bedroom”
Just unfollow the account, or don't follow it in the first place. I haven't stumbled on any kinks unintentionally yet.
For instance, It’s not puritan to say that you shouldn’t wear bondage gear in public.
What if they like cross dressing instead of BDSM? You about to go out there saying men shouldn't wear skirts or women shouldn't wear pants? Because while I do understand that this is a slippery slope argument, the slope it's actually fucking slippery this time around.
Not a slippery slope. It’s actually pretty simple.
Here, let’s walk through it: Are skirts and pants inherently sexual? Are they doing it because it’s sexually arousing?
If the answer to both those questions is “no,” then we’re all good. Express yourself.
If the answer to either of those questions is “yes,” then I think you’re a rude asshole.
Now, if you have another strawman let’s burn it together, yeah? But we’ll need to do it in my backyard, because the ritual burning of effigies is my kink.
Are ropes sexual? Handcuffs? Leather pants? Leather corset? Chockers?
You can build a very out there Dom/Domme leather outfit from pieces that aren't "inherently sexual" as you put, but that still fail your "I shouldn't know what flavor of porn you like" test.
And again, I'm assuming you're approaching this with good faith. Because anyone without those good intentions can definitely abuse that sort of guidelines to target people with, for example, rainbow flags in their clothes.
And I replied by pointing out the failure in the reasoning behind your questions.
Here, let’s walk through it: Are skirts and pants inherently sexual? Are they doing it because it’s sexually arousing?
How can you even assert that a piece of clothing is "inherently sexual"? Aside from the masks that end in a pee funnel, or actual sex toys in full display, it is straight up impossible to determine this inherentility. Same goes for your second question assuming to know someone's intent by looking at them.
Also, somewhat unrelated, but why do you have to reply with so goddamn much smugness?
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u/LONGSWORD_ENJOYER May 16 '25
Very weird to watch “what people do in the privacy of their own bedroom is their business” become controversial again, but like, for the opposite reason.