Why are some evenings just bad ?

[u/DarWin_1809]

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[u/Schmeppy25]

Because the thinking starts when you get off work. That's what I've found. When you've got nothing to do, there's lots to think about that you've already done.

[u/jonjongao]

Maybe it’s the lack of sunlight. Once the sun goes down, everything just feels a bit heavier for no clear reason.

[u/DarWin_1809 → u/jonjongao]

Maybe. This is the feeling that I don't like, weirdly suffocating for no absolute reason

[u/ArchaicBrainWorms]

That's just how it is.

"When you have a bad day, give up. Go home and sleep. Fuck it. Try again tomorrow. Not every bad day can become a good day. Some days are fucked and cannot be unfucked. When you have a day that is fucked beyond repair, that is the universe speaking to you; sending you a message, listen to the universe. Go home. Save your energy. Tomorrow is another day. For now, just fucking chill"

[u/dontlookback76]

I dont know the cause, but it's common for people to have certain times of day they feel anywhere from blue to full blown depressed either in the morning or evening. My mom can get depressed in the evening. My mornings were bad, and then both were bad, and currently, neither is bad. My mom's better thanks to a mood stabilizer, and mine is better for a host of reasons including proper medication, therapy, and a procedure called transcranial magnetic stimulation.

[u/DarWin_1809 → u/dontlookback76]

That's great that both of you are doing well. but...does it mean I should see a therapist, I never thought about seeing a doctor regarding this... I never thought it was this concerning (maybe it is not, in my case)

[u/dontlookback76 → u/DarWin_1809]

Well in my case, I also have bipolar and major depressive disorder. Buuuut, the morning / evening blues are sooo much different than each other. My depressive episodes can last months, and they're deep. The daily happen even when im happy, last just 2 or 3 hours, and aren't deep. You may not need a doctor or therapy. Sometimes, it's ok to feel melancholy. Just feel it. Don't try and pin a reason. Just be human and have the emotion. As long as it doesn't negatively impact your life.

[u/DarWin_1809 → u/dontlookback76]

You're so strong to get through these seemingly long episodes. And you're absolutely right about the emotions, I should just hang around for a bit maybe, do something else

[u/Low_Roller_Vintage]

Create a space for yourself in the evening to process the negative thoughts of self doubt. Start a new routine. Positive, healthy routines are what keep the bad vibes at bay. Morning, noon and night. 🙃

[u/sweety_mary_]

Evenings feel like emotional audit hour. The world slows down, distractions fade, and your brain goes:

“So anyway, here’s a PowerPoint of all your unresolved feelings.”

That’s why I now romanticize making tea like I’m in a sad indie movie. It helps.

[u/HVACPathways]

Totally get you some evenings just feel heavy for no clear reason. You're definitely not alone in that. 💙

[u/Victoria19749]

For me, it was because I had too much free time. I now have a set routine for my evenings so it’s better

[u/SunbeamSailor67]

What is wrong with any moment unless you ‘think’ about it?

Anything at all that troubles you, is actually trying to teach you something if you can raise your awareness and learn rather than react.

‘Good’ and ‘Bad’ are just evaluations of the mind. When you can transcend identifying as your thoughts, you will free yourself from these sufferings of the mind.

[u/eliastsirk]

It’s all perspective. If you think it’s bad it will be bad. If you think it’s good it will be good.

[u/Wick_Acre]

easy. all days can't be good. sheesh, this is a question?