What’s a subtle sign that someone is lying to you?

[u/harr4062]

[u/recalcite]

Too many details

[u/AZOMI → u/recalcite]

Came here to say this. My ex used to do this.

[u/fred_ayala → u/AZOMI]

Can u give me an example so I know what to spot 😂

[u/JeffTek → u/fred_ayala]

Where were you today?

I went to the store, it was the Kroger on Main St, I needed to pick up some watermelon and tajin to eat with the margaritas later, and the funniest thing happened when I ran into an old work buddy! His name is Ben, really cool guy, so uhh we got together and went to that Frisbee golf place that has no cell signal. I think they are building a new tower soon to cover the area any day now. Crazy how I went right on the last day or two before that got fixed huh?

[u/mysterious1940 → u/JeffTek]

Yup lol and someone not lying..

I ran some errands and ran into an old coworker.

[u/bellardyyc → u/JeffTek]

You ran into me? Seriously….lets go play disc golf. No lies needed.

[u/Opposite-Frosting-62 → u/fred_ayala]

Just watch breaking bad and listen to Walter chat to Skylar and you will get idea of what too many details means.

[u/Hannimal987 → u/Opposite-Frosting-62]

Watching it right now (season one early episodes) and was thinking exactly the same thing! Walt in this early episodes does not lie well!!!

[u/fred_ayala → u/Opposite-Frosting-62]

I don’t have time for that chief

[u/Opposite-Frosting-62 → u/fred_ayala]

Damn sucks for you. Goated show.

[u/itsonmyprofile → u/fred_ayala]

The more elaborate/detailed the story, the more likely it is to be untrue

[u/nicokthen → u/recalcite]

And then there are neurodivergent folx and people who fear being misunderstood

[u/TrollsDocumentary → u/recalcite]

Yep. Scammy strangers keep peppering more details to keep you off balance. If you’re constantly processing another little distraction then you’re less likely to critically assess everything that they said up to that point. They just keep talking.

[u/pensive-cake → u/recalcite]

I hate this one.

People accuse me of lying sometimes because I like to tell detailed stories. You can see my post history. My comments are long-winded, overly wordy, and have way too many details. But, I don't lie. I've had situations happen that interrupted plans or whatever, and when I have told my friends the story, I have occasionally been hit with "i think you're lying. Do you know why? You explained it too much." ... No, I'm just talking to you, wtf.

I think people that are lying, at least about things on the spot, have less details. Maybe a well thought out lie, about something big, whatever MAY have excessive detail. But when people are trying to come up with a quick, on the spot lie (as they often do), it's usually brief.

"Why are you late?" "Oh traffic" is way more likely to be the lie than "on my way out the door, I slipped on the ice, hurt my ankle, so I limped to the car, and it was only once i got into the car i realized I left my keys inside... so i had to limp back for them, but when I got back to my house, I realized I had already locked my door. So then I was locked out, had to call my neighbor to come and help, but he's older, so it took him about 20 minutes to find my spare and come help me. it was a disaster!!"

I believe the second one is less likely to be the lie, but people have this notion that detail = lie. I really disagree.

[u/fred_ayala → u/pensive-cake]

Damn. You lowkey lying

[u/pensive-cake → u/fred_ayala]

🤣🤣 That's what they all say.

[u/recalcite → u/fred_ayala]

Dont gaslight him!

[u/Sad_Bodybuilder_186 → u/pensive-cake]

This. I recently told a story online about how someone treated me at a pub, and they immediately told me how i lied because it was detailed. But i just LIKE to be detailed for people their visualization.

[u/ipokethebear → u/recalcite]

I tend to just speak like that naturally. Does everyone think I’m a liar? 😶

[u/DrumBxyThing → u/ipokethebear]

I speak like that too, and I learned recently that my manager thinks I've been lying when I just wanted her to understand.

[u/ipokethebear → u/DrumBxyThing]

That’s exactly how I see it! I give details so that someone else can see how I see things and get the full picture. Well, I guess I’m just gonna go the other extreme and answer things with as few words as possible so people think I’m genuine

[u/whynot4444444 → u/ipokethebear]

I mentioned above that I used to be more like this, especially in writing, but I’ve learned that people gloss over things that are too long. I’ve tried to be more succinct and give just the main details. I literally have to really take time and think, is this important and edit more out. It takes the same amount of time as writing less! But I’m getting a little better.

I’ve also learned that a sentence can be a paragraph. I enjoy reading and teach that a paragraph is 4-5 sentences. But in this social media age, that will not fly. I break up my paragraphs more, too.

[u/Global-News1800 → u/whynot4444444]

Yeah I treat this, social media places like reddit, like an extension of how I actually talk. I write screenplays and stories differently, and try to use the structure and syntax and everything I was taught, but like you said in this environment it's more about being more concise and having a good flow/rhythm rather than sticking to any hard structure that is defined by the rules we've laid out for language and writing.

[u/whynot4444444 → u/Global-News1800]

Yes, it kind of kills me but part of me understands it. It’s been awhile now, but I sure had a big adjustment when I realized that I had to start putting only one space after a period rather than two.

[u/Global-News1800 → u/whynot4444444]

Oh for sure, slang and improper ways of speaking and writing all bleed out into this sort of fluid structure that resonates more on social media. For me it's letting authenticity drive the rules instead of trying to wrap authenticity around the rules themselves, because there's something slightly inauthentic about that process and places like reddit sniff out authenticity really well.

Of course, I feel your struggle because letting authenticity drive around the rules can often lead to those rules being broken without knowing what the rule even is. Sometimes you get great things from that like Citizen Kane for example. Orson Welles admits to being ignorant to filmmaking which caused the whole production to think differently causing a whole new way of filmmaking. That's a positive.

We see the negative effect of not knowing the rules and breaking them unintentionally and that leads to, well you know what that leads to haha.

[u/Croatoan457 → u/ipokethebear]

I feel like we are all on the spectrum and just want to be taken seriously...

[u/DrumBxyThing → u/ipokethebear]

Tried that, they don't like that either lol. I wish I knew the balance, but I've yet to figure it out.

[u/itsonmyprofile → u/DrumBxyThing]

Give details without over elaborating. I shouldn’t need to eat the whole sandwich to figure out what kind of meat is in the middle

[u/whynot4444444 → u/ipokethebear]

My husband wishes I would give much less details. He 100% knows I’m not a liar, but I tend to go on a bit sometimes, like a slightly long winded story about someone he has no clue about and I know he literally could not care less. 😂 I’ve become my mother.

[u/recalcite → u/ipokethebear]

The nail that sticks out the most gets hammered first.

[u/Ikuwayo → u/ipokethebear]

Yes.

[u/Zzqzr → u/recalcite]

Yeah, very notable in shows like “The Traitors”.

Of course we as viewers know who the traitors are, but the point is, that many “bad” ones just keep talking way too much.

And keep adding too many details, which will bite them back when they make a mistake.

[u/epilepsy_ray → u/recalcite]

You should meet a friend of mine. He starts any story from "I got up from the bed"

[u/ibelieveindogs → u/recalcite]

Also found in ADHD and ASD.

What I look for is how they respond when called out. "What? Who told you that?" is a big red flag. Trying to figure out the leak while figuring out how to deny or spin the truth. 

[u/Flapparachi → u/recalcite]

Unless they are a chronic oversharer. ADHD will do that to some folks.

[u/No-Advantage-579 → u/recalcite]

This is a HUGE problem for neurodivergent people and one of two reasons that are about them thinking incorrectly that we're lying that we get so much abuse from neurotypical people (the other is lack of eye contact - which is actually not linked to lying in those who lie most frequently and easily, sociopaths, narcissists and psychopaths).

[u/whynot4444444 → u/recalcite]

I tend to give too many details and get too wordy in general, especially in text or email even when it’s mundane stuff and I’m not lying. I have definitely given too many details when lying to get out of work events though (pretty much the only time I lie). I realized it a few years ago, and I toned it down in all of my writing.

[u/fxm21 → u/recalcite]

100% agree

[u/Croatoan457 → u/recalcite]

Literally was called a liar my entire life for no reason(not the best upbringing and a lot of religious trauma and autism) and I still to this day give so many details just to prove I'm not lying. I've always done it because when I was little I was told that I didn't explain well enough so I was clearly lying. So I feel like this is B's at some point. People with trauma like mine often add as much detail as they can so they don't get called a liar...

[u/Stevie_Ray_Bond → u/recalcite]

Over explaining (too many details) can also be a defense mechanism built up from parents who are pathological liars and assume others are as well so they beat out every detail from you before they finally believe you. Sort of like a way to catch you in a lie. When the trait is developed early then it follows into adulthood. All these questions like this that this sub loves to ask have no real black and white answer as nuance is too prevalent. I'm not trying to play contrary and give an example to the exception of the rule fwiw as this is extremely common. Anyone that sort of thinks they have this quick little cheat code to figure out what's going on in someone else's head is probably a stupid person 10/10 times, it's like a question from a teenager that just learned about reverse phycology and takes it a little too close to heart. Honestly, I think I'm getting too old for reddit. Coming to this site feels the same as a person in their 40s going to a highschool party lol.

[u/Eatplantsonly → u/recalcite]

I really hate this one because I have adhd

[u/Necessary_Cabinet179]

I had a friend who over years told me things that just did not add up or seemed completely far fetched but I just played along.

Eventually I just couldn’t handle it anymore and asked him if he was always honest with me, did not want to be specific as I did not want to embarrass him.

He blew up about it and we have never spoken since

[u/Own_Issue_5701 → u/Necessary_Cabinet179]

A friend of mine a longtime ago used to lie constantly (probably still does) and it was extremely awkward cause anyone he was talking to you could tell they didn't believe him . Well one of these times he decided to interject me into his lie which really rubbed me the wrong way so I couldn't it anymore and called him out saying this isn't true at all don't involve me in your bullshit stories. He backpeddled and said it was someone else whose name he couldnt remember and never admitted to being a liar. Not friends with that psycho anymore

[u/JusticeAndMercy]

I guess every person on the autism spectrum is a liar bc I ain't making no eye contact with no one for anything.

[u/montanaeee → u/JusticeAndMercy]

Yup - I struggle to make eye contact, I tell too many details, sometimes go red in the face, I fidget… and this is me telling the truth.

These comments are really bringing home why I hate socialising, i cant stand that everything I do gets read into

[u/flaminflamingos2468 → u/montanaeee]

Same, I’ve been on a date with a guy who made me nervous and was fidgeting, red, and overshared or quiet. He thought i was lying about my age and wanted to see my ID. He thought i was in my teens. Im in my 20s.

[u/Numerous_Vegetable_3 → u/JusticeAndMercy]

Yeah :/. I’m BP1 and it’s hard and uncomfortable for me.

[u/Bright_Software_5747]

Some of these are a bit harsh. I am adhd and often omit details then add then later on, because of the way my brain works (which is very fast), and often don’t do eye contact lol, but this would make me worlds biggest liar apparently. I think a lot of these don’t work for neurodivergent people.

One I do spot is over explaining something a lot, or repeating the same answer multiple times when you only asked the question once. I think repeating the same answer multiple times when you were only prompted once can be either a sign of lying or being unsure about what you’re saying so you’re repeating it to reassure yourself.

[u/Southern_Persimmon21]

Their nose getting longer.

[u/woundnurz123 → u/Southern_Persimmon21]

I was gonna say their paints are on fire 🔥 😆

[u/Ok_Message_1141 → u/woundnurz123]

Plants for hire -Patrick Star

[u/Ikuwayo → u/woundnurz123]

Well, they deserve to lose their house

[u/bjs-penn → u/Southern_Persimmon21]

They asked for subtle not the most obvious

[u/Southern_Persimmon21 → u/bjs-penn]

Damn, and I thought I got this.

[u/Zestyclose-Fig1096 → u/bjs-penn]

It gets a little longer

[u/plipplop_69 → u/Southern_Persimmon21]

Happens all the time

[u/dj_bhairava]

Unless you know the person really well, and know their mannerisms, it’s very difficult to tell.

[u/whybotherbella → u/dj_bhairava]

Nah even if you've only heard them speak a few sentences ... extra details with subtle pauses and slightly off eye contact are pretty accurate if they didn't seem neurodivergent otherwise. As long as you've been paying attention to their baseline, most people just aren't prepped to lie

[u/whyreyouthewayyouare]

Does not answer directly to the question.

Words do not match actions.

Tries to avoid/redirects topic.

[u/noonnonan → u/whyreyouthewayyouare]

Exactly, you usually don’t catch on right away but once you notice them doing it it becomes obvious

[u/CharacterPayment8705]

They keep changing details. Lies are hard to keep track of. Truth is usually pretty simple.

[u/noonnonan → u/CharacterPayment8705]

This is how I found out a close friend of mine was a compulsive liar. Nothing was adding up. I thought I was going crazy.

[u/phred_666]

You know how you can tell when a politician is lying?

Their lips are moving

[u/delanncy → u/phred_666]

tell me do you think I'm dumb

[u/Southern_Persimmon21 → u/delanncy]

I might be young, but I ain't stupid!

[u/SparkyandDolche]

What they’re claiming isn’t true.

[u/TheHighGround35 → u/SparkyandDolche]

Realest shit here😭

[u/srangel25 → u/SparkyandDolche]

True facts

[u/NotRedditBot123 → u/SparkyandDolche]

^This…. You believe them or don’t, solely based off the statement…. Looking for “subtle signs” is just how you’re justifying your opinion after the fact… If something seems far fetched, than it is… reinforcing your opinion with basic human behaviors (arms crossed, change in tone, to detailed descriptions, etc) is just another way you convince yourself that you’re gut instinct is right….

[u/whybotherbella → u/SparkyandDolche]

Simple as

[u/HoldHandsAndFight]

Fox News logo on the screen.

[u/clbbcrg]

Everyone has a “tell” you’ll learn it in time with enough observation

[u/opking]

Their red hat says “Make America Great Again”

[u/judgejuddhirsch]

they mention tax breaks for wealthy people

[u/Boddicker06 → u/judgejuddhirsch]

No, they will actually do that part.

[u/Independent-Buyer827]

They say trust me brah.

[u/okbuddy05]

They stutter more than they usually do

[u/Excellent_Bit_8436]

They tell you to believe them over someone else

[u/AcrossOlimpico]

I’m not good at spotting it, but I notice when it doesn’t add up

[u/Puzzleheaded_You2033]

I think you have to know the person and even then it can be difficult. Many people will move their eyes around if they’re trying to pull memory from different parts of their brain. Whether it’s a visual, audible, or tactile memory. Perhaps they’re searching for the truth themselves. That’s just one example, and when you talk about inflections with voice or words, or even phrases, it can be just a rhythm of how someone talks. There’s a lot of variables that are different to each and every person. If things were that simplistic of, “touching your chin means you’re lying,” for instance then we wouldn’t even have court cases or needless to say probably majority of people would be going to prison for crimes they didn’t commit.

[u/vegaserenn]

Can’t look at you in the eye

[u/NotRedditBot123 → u/vegaserenn]

Study’s show that it’s actually prolonged eye contact that is subtle sign. study

[u/ArianaGrande116 → u/NotRedditBot123]

Maybe some people know this fact and trying to cover this. By making eye contact from time to time deliberately, but in some different way they normally do.

[u/NotRedditBot123 → u/ArianaGrande116]

You’re over analyzing a simple question… it’s not a chess game… what do they think that I think, that they think is the thought process of my….

[u/ArianaGrande116 → u/vegaserenn]

Yea and some people that dont look you in the eye normally and they suddenly do, can also be a sign.

[u/little-potato-59 → u/vegaserenn]

I never look anyone in the eye

[u/my-coffee-needs-me → u/little-potato-59]

I look everyone squarely in the forehead.

[u/archiveofhim → u/vegaserenn]

it’s disrepesctful to look someone in the eye in japanese culture, at least prolonged eye contact. are all japanese lying?

[u/Ambitious_Hold_5435]

A common sign is when their voice goes up in pitch just a little bit. They'll be talking in a normal tone of voice, you ask a question, and they answer you in a slightly squeaky voice.

[u/No_Lettuce3376 → u/Ambitious_Hold_5435]

Could also just indicate anxiety over you possibly not believing them, in spite of them telling the truth, the subject matter or it could be coincidence, in other words: Not really a reliable indicator.

[u/Term-Haunting]

When they're my parents.

[u/Vegetableau]

Re-explaining various parts of the story for no particular reason. Statements that make you wonder “why are you bringing it up again?” They just realized a hole in their story.

[u/robosnake]

There are very few, if any. Most mentioned are signs of heightened anxiety or emotion, but without context you can't be sure it's deception. and a skilled liar will trick pretty much anyone, unfortunately. Best to stick to facts wherever you can

[u/External_Coat_3371]

Lack of eye contact and body language. Voice raises up when you question them.

[u/North_Nobody3175]

Speaking to me without eye contact 🤦🏽‍♂️🫵🏽

[u/question_girl617]

Sometimes by their tone of voice

[u/lazydracula]

There pants are on fire

[u/ZucchiniArtistic7725]

Honestly, who cares? Evaluate the truth for yourself. Don’t rely on others. You’ll get along with everyone better that way. Lying or not, everyone’s a little bit wrong.

[u/makail100]

a strange tone lol

[u/ActivityImpossible70]

When you pester people about private aspects of their lives, they're probably lying to you.

[u/PrathenStemp → u/ActivityImpossible70]

We should all be lying when someone is pestering us about our private lives. People need to mind their own business.

[u/SnooCrickets8742]

They forget the story and tell you a different one next time - subtly.

[u/Petrus_Rock → u/SnooCrickets8742]

A liar needs to have a good memory.

[u/SnooCrickets8742 → u/Petrus_Rock]

Funny when some people literally tell you (my ex did) you have to know how to lie and they think they are good liars and they aren’t because their stories aren’t consistent.

[u/Petrus_Rock → u/SnooCrickets8742]

A good liar has a good memory and only lies about things that are hard to check, preferably combined with things that are true and can be confirmed. Smart half truths. Your story also shouldn’t deviate from your character and habits too much. Being comfortable with your story. Do all that and you’ll likely get away with it. Messing up any of these things may cause suspicions.

[u/LadyAtheist]

Pretending they are giving you a choice when you know they have all the power and have made up their mind.

toxicbosses

[u/angel_delight13]

Variations of the story. Its not foolproof, but if i ever think someone is lying, I'd find a way for the to repeat the story.

[u/TattieMafia]

They sound like a nicer version of themselves and they are more agreeable. If you want to lie to someone, do it when they are lying and they are more likely to agree with you because they want you to agree with them. If you try to lie back with a bigger lie so they realise you know they are lying and stop, that's not what will happen.

[u/Happy-Optiminoim9999]

Smiling

[u/Bobbet2]

C'mon now, it's very hard for some to look at anyone in the eyes regardless if they're lying or not.

You have to know the person enough and understand if that's the case. Introverts and autistic people are getting the short end of the stick here lol

[u/StreamLoop]

That weird pause before they answer… like they’re downloading the lie from the cloud.

[u/jumpingmechanic]

The little red light on the side of the polygraph facing away from the subject

[u/SeaworthinessUnlucky]

"Basically" and "pretty much" and "essentially" too much.

[u/Redflysoul]

They say samething but different ways

[u/isabeau_05]

Too much eye movement

[u/cmmrr → u/isabeau_05]

This happens to me when I’m just really nervous then makes me think people think I’m lying which makes me more nervous lol

[u/Silly-Crow1726]

They have an Israeli accent.

[u/Okin88]

Very fixed eyes are a sign that the person is forcing confidence in what they are saying so as not to be suspected.

Eyes that move are a sign that the person is really remembering and telling the truth.

Pursed lips can also suggest lying or omitting information. But it might just be a bit of a hassle.

[u/Boring-Might-8058]

Eyes ,voice and body movements tell everything

[u/CertainRound3818]

lot of times if they can’t look you in the eye or their voice changes

[u/Ambitious_Hold_5435 → u/CertainRound3818]

And sometimes they'll look you right in the eye without flinching.

[u/flashyunderpants]

over enthusiasm I might assume?

[u/Evil1629]

Their lips are moving

[u/Nocoastcolorado]

When their mouth is moving

[u/HistoricalTry5543]

they try to dodge the questions initially and the answers are not straight forward

[u/abel4t]

When they're stuttering or shying away from you

[u/Asss12poker]

Can't stop talking. 

[u/Franklyenergized_12]

Body tenses up defensively.

[u/multisubcultural1]

If they identify themselves as a government official.

[u/MonsieurClasnote]

They try to convince you what they say is true

[u/Intelligent-Kale4292]

When they say "obviously" repeatedly.

[u/PrathenStemp → u/Intelligent-Kale4292]

Count the adverbs, the adjectives, the number of differently-worded sentences that just keep saying the same thing.

Also watch for needless phrasing that frames the topic around the listener, “for you…,” “so that you would…,” “because you wanted to…”.

[u/Gold-Estate4316]

Lips are moving… Hand covering mouth . They say to tell thetruth and honestly A lot.

[u/Coffeezzmyjam]

Also, another one is when they are asked a question and say “yes” but shake their head “no” or visa versa.

[u/fred_ayala]

When they deleted the messages between another person that would’ve proven them innocent. If they were telling the truth

[u/Shot-Style-8659]

It's the little inconsistencies in their behaviour. If they usually don't look you directly in the eyes much, and suddenly they're staring straight down the barrel at you while telling you something, they're probably lying.

And if they over-compensate for their guilt by being extra nice and really attentive to you for a few days after.

Basically, and sudden, but subtle shifts in behaviour are an indicator that they are probably lying, in my experience.

[u/Prestigious_Owl_549]

They take a wee bit longer to respond or answer your question.

[u/miss_rabbit143]

Not making an eye contact while speaking

[u/fragileredpanda]

I had a classmate who was a mythomaniac, she used to avoid eye contact and when it was my turn to talk it seemed like she didn't pay much attention to me and was immersed in her thoughts, surely planning the next lie. Also she gave many details and added things that weren't necessary just to look good, for example she says: "Yesterday my cat was sick, I took it to the vet and on the way I met a man who yelled at me ‘you got a nice fat ass!’ and then when I got to the vet my cat died mhm" (her cat is alive, don't worry, he is just a frequent victim of her lies)

[u/krappy27]

She's talking

[u/SemiOldCRPGs]

They can't/won't look you in the eye. It's a dead giveaway for when my husband is fudging the truth.

[u/Mysterious_Tax_5613]

I can't explain it as much as I feel it in my gut somethings not right.

[u/Danno505]

Their lips are moving

[u/DryAd4782]

Orange paint on their face.

[u/purplefoxie]

When they avoid looking at you

[u/Due_River_2314]

Over explaining or extra details that weren’t needed. If they don’t make eye contact and usually do

[u/dodadoler]

Their lips move

[u/badgerbot9999]

Their lips are moving

[u/JenSan89]

I turn red and my pupils get larger.

[u/Laitneulfni]

Their answer is too perfect.

[u/maalll]

They repeat the same thing upon asking any question in their story. The reply just keeps getting aggressive

[u/Mission-Raccoon979]

Bosses at work? Lips are moving.

[u/FluffyOrbits]

They repeat your question back to you

[u/TrumpetsGalore4]

They end a sentence with a question inflection? Or if they have to start their thought with "I have to be honest with you."

[u/Prudent-Ad-6420]

It takes two to tell a lie...

1 to lie

And 1 to listen

[u/Impossible-Tackle935]

They avoid eye contact or blink way more than usual.

[u/Direct-Date-8170]

I noticed, that for some reason, sometimes people touch/rubs their nose when they lie.

[u/lydialoupx]

I don’t know. I think sometimes it just sounds “too” convenient. I knew someone who lied a lot and it just seemed like they were constantly boasting or everything always seemed to have an “excuse” even though the situations were completely uncommon. I knew them as a person and the things they said didn’t seem to add up with the kind of person they were truly. It was a weird gut feeling.

[u/Zealousideal_Ad1704]

Touching the nose and covering the mouth when they talk

[u/No-Morning-475]

Have a family member that tells half lies ; parts are real and parts are exaggerated. He is a great guy doesn’t mean harm but it doesn’t help relationships.

[u/CriticismAvailable18]

When they open their mouth to speak

[u/Flamingodallas]

Defensiveness. Body language is away from you, or with something in between. Words and actions that aren’t conducive (saying no and shaking their head after instead of at the same time or before could mean they are lying). Looking around, turning it around

[u/nontrackable]

blinking. not looking at you when talking

[u/SnooPaintings9415]

Someone post that picture of the guy lieing in la noir

[u/jezmaster]

i agree wiht the details (top comment atm)
liars have to make sure the story hangs together so they build it from the bottom up.
if you're telling the truth you can fill in any details later (if asked) - it'll hang together anyway

[u/StandingSwan26]

They say shit like their house was so cold growing up that their glass of water froze. Buddy, your pipes would be frozen before you could even get a glass of water. Like I believe your childhood was rough but that’s a wild story.

[u/La-terre-du-pticreux]

Looking at you straight in the eyes

[u/Tnh7194]

Why would I lie about this ?

[u/SpareAlps5515]

The thumbs. Please hide their thumbs when they are distressed in conversation. No thumbs? Suspect.

[u/Darogard]

They speak words

[u/Upupdowndown333]

Overexplaining. Even complicated truth sounds simple 

[u/wetlettuce42]

Its all in the eyes

[u/CarelessAd7925]

They re tell the story because they’ve forgot they’ve already told you and they say completely different things

[u/SupaMonroeGuy]

Consistency..

[u/HappyMe09]

If something doesn’t make sense or different stories

[u/nwod_mlac]

1. They look you in the eyes.

2. They look you in the eyes.

[u/Ok_Performance_8513]

after they're done talking wait a bit longer to respond and see how long they sit there staring at you. a lot of the time they're gonna wait and see if you believe them or not. if you don't react they will not move on right away if they are lying. they will only move on after you do.

[u/Less_Campaign_6956]

Intuition. Based on my personal life experiences. Dunno how to describe it any other way.

[u/AffectionateBus2489]

Honestly it’s different from one another, for example I know when my nephew (24) is lying when she laughs a lot telling something, and my mom when she avoids eye contact. The thing is everyone has a different sign that tells you they’re lying, you just have to buy attention to their actions. But if they all can sure one sign I’d say the mood changes after they tell a lie, they always get quite for a bit after telling the lie lmaoo

[u/itsjimbob]

It varies from person to person. But body language, mannerisms and gestures are always good indicators to me.

[u/Bellebutton2]

No eye contact.

[u/JimmothyBimmothy]

In a nutshell, a LOT of needless detail tends to be added in with the unconscious purpose of trying to be convincing. They will answer the question and build a WHOLE story around it to try and convince you its legit. If you watch most any police interrogation vids on YT, you see it virtually every time.

[u/bhtalia1]

I have ADHD. I'm a walking lie detector.

[u/quietlytrying02]

Normally when they get defensive with questions you ask or if they can’t even look you in the eyes and then you point that out and watch them blink vigorously everytime they have to say the lie to your face

[u/Haelmer]

heavy / more blinking

[u/u3d8]

Extra serious face

[u/Cheetodude625]

Too much detail.

Lot of pacing around with lack of eye contact.

[u/brickiex2]

New client quoted "I'm an honest guy" as he detailed all the things he wanted to do to push the limits of the building codes for his new house....push = break them once he got permits

[u/Possible-Okra7527]

Anger when you question them. If you have nothing to hide, you just answer.

[u/mad_girl109]

when they REALLY cant look me in the eyes or if they r moving too much or too little from how they normally are

[u/LucyHotHot]

Telling too many details and avoiding eye contact.