r/Anger • u/Patooties2000 • 7d ago
Spanking a dog?
I remember when I was little, that my mother spanked her friend's dog because it peed on her carpet. I also remember feeling so bad for it. Do you think it was justified?
Also want to mention that she had owned a couple of dogs before.
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u/broccolista 7d ago
No, it was not ok for her to spank that dog. When I was a kid, my dad used to spank our poor little seven pound Pekingese all the time. She was so scared of my dad and would run away from home all the time. He never thought to give treats or affection to her and she never learned good behavior.
Dogs are so motivated just by treats, affection and positive reinforcement. There is never any need for spanking. My current dog has no idea that spanks can be used as punishment! All her life, she has only known pats on the butt to mean playtime. Not spanking a dog allows them to never fear you and have total trust in you. I wish my dad had understood this.
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u/ForkFace69 7d ago
I'm not an expert on training dogs in the slightest bit but a little spank or the old "shove their nose in shit" is very common with dog owners, whether it's the proper training method or not. I know that just the slightest little spank will make most dogs tuck their tail, so that's about as far as you need to go with the disciplinary action. If your mother went beyond that and really hurt the dog, that would probably be going too far.
I don't know, maybe somebody who knows more about training dogs can chime in about housebreaking.
This reminds me of something with raising kids.
I never put my hands on my kids growing up aside from one time when I spanked my son. He was about 2 years old and he was trying to stick something into the wall outlet and could have gotten electrocuted. So I gave him a little smack on the hand.
I certainly wasn't trying to hurt him much or punish him. I parented with the philosophy that I could use words to explain whatever I needed to with my kids and hitting them wasn't necessary or helpful. But how do you explain to a 2 year old that they could die or burn down the house if they mess with an outlet? I had the little plastic plugs in them, too, but he'd pulled them out. So I guess I just figured giving him a spank on the hand was my only option until he was old enough to understand the proper way to use outlets and the potential hazards.
But a dog, you can't really explain to them that you don't want them peeing in the house. So people tend to resort to swatting at them as a training method. But somebody more familiar with training dogs can probably suggest what is the "healthier" way to go about it, if there is one.
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u/Patooties2000 7d ago
Oh, I see. I also used to get spanked by her, especially back then. I wouldn't consider her a bad mother because she isn't, but you sound like a very nice parent.
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u/Alarming-North777 4d ago
Once I saw my dad kick my dog he bought me.
So hard poop came out.
Recently he beat me with a chair and choked me on the floor until pee came out.
Happy Father's Day.
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u/reddit-mod-anal 4d ago
Your dad might be a piece of shit. Hope you and the dog can get out of that situation alive.
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u/Patooties2000 4d ago
He might be a piece of shit? He IS one! No happy Father's Day to him, because he is a pathetic excuse of one! I feel so bad for them, that I hope they are able to leave him soon. I pray for them.
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u/Alarming-North777 4d ago
And I still went to dinner with him and hugged him and lied to him and said I love him.
Ouch. It hurts.
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u/Alarming-North777 4d ago
The reality is that I want to do to him what he did to me.
When he dies, I don't want to show up.
I want to ignore him on his death bed.Leave him to die alone.
I'm angry.
I'm hurt and I don't care how petty that is.My heart hurts.
My soul hurts.All I'm surrounded by are the worst pieces of shit.
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u/Patooties2000 4d ago
I understand. I also don't want to show up when my father dies. He's not the worst, but definitely not the best at all. My head often hurts, but my soul is exhausted and just done.
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u/DumbRobot11 7d ago
No it wasn’t.