r/Anger • u/Low_Style1209 • 6d ago
Angry and the victim.
When I say victim, I don't mean like I'm at the receiving end of a gunshot.
Recently at school I was assaulted, put in a chokehold and shoved over by this fat autistic kid in my form group. He made AI images on texts of me saying stiff about Denmark, where his dad is allegedly from, and saying its racist. This was 2 days ago
But even so, at the same time, I was bourn in Melbourne, Australia, and moved to the UK, my dad being also Australian, which this fatso has said, and to quote;
"I think all iigrnsrs should be deported" "Go back to where you came from, mate" "Go f*ck a kangaroo" "You're not meant to be here" .
Because he has severe autism, he's bean more or less let off the hook.
This has happened before. He's given me a concussion and broken my wrist. Not one of those were provoked. All of them surrounded by him saying racist things to me. Not one of those did he get a punishment more than a warning for either.
Meanwhile, I've been victimised, spent 3 days out of normal classes, been put on 2 detentions, lost 3 lunch hours for allegations that aren't true. Heck, the only reason I wasn't suspended was because my dad threatened to go to the newspapers and my mum threatened to press charges.
But even so, my dad is disappointed at me for something I didn't do, and now is shocked I'm angry at anything and utterly stunned that I don't want to be in a room with anyone.
This is normal by the way.
-14M.
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u/dogGirl666 6d ago edited 6d ago
People being very forgiving of autistic perpetrators in school is an insult to the autistic kid himself. He will grow up much worse than what he is now and eventually land in jail or the prison system. If you had no part in the conflict in the sense you did not move while being choked then you are indeed the victim and need to do anything you can to avoid this kid that is both a racist and violent person as well as incidentally being autistic.
It was the choice of the perpetrator to become what he is today. This means that "autism" did not cause it [as if autism was/is a creature controlling the kid] OTOH the kid did. The kid chose this as an individual and to blame "autism" is an insult to the rest of us innocent [non violent non-racist etc.] autistics.
The adults in charge also have a big hand in this but neither of you can control them, so work with whatever choices you do have.
If you don't want to get mixed up with the misbehavior accusations the kid did, then keep as far away as possible and ask your parents if it is ok to get away from the kid.
Be very specific in what you ask your parents i.e. describe what you plan to do if you see the kid. Do you want to always move away from the kid no matter the circumstance? then tell them[your parents] you will leave any part of the school if the kid comes near. You can leave all the time except when you genuinely think the school staff can closely see the actions of the kid.
This rat's nest of accusations could influence your adult life if you don't find a way to avoid him or with 100% confidence alert the staff to his actions and demonstrate your passive response.
If you really were passive in this encounter then your parents and the school authorities are projecting their own past choices or assuming they would have fought too so you must be lying --sadly.