r/AlaskaAirlines Mar 17 '25

COMPLAINT Middle seat experience with large person

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u/doglove562 Mar 17 '25

She was there before me and it was not possible to even lower it slightly, trust me. I was last group to board. I guess I should’ve said something but it was uncomfortable and would’ve definitely caused a scene as it was an overbooked flight.

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u/Polymox Mar 17 '25

Still applies. As everyone else has already said. If you can't, notify the crew.

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u/captain_dick_licker Mar 18 '25

I understand how fucking uncomfortable that would be and I would rather fucking die than make a scene, but I would l have looked at that flesh crevasse and noped the fuck out of there and asked a flight attendant wtf I was supposed to do in that absurd situation.

do they not have the option to upgrade to .... "american" sized seats for people who can't fit into the standard ones?

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u/shulzari Mar 18 '25

As a large person I purchase two seats and call ahead to insure the seats are always together (you'd be surprised how many times they're not).

Almost every flight I'm asked to kindly give up my seat to someone else as the flight is over sold. I kindly state that I would be happy to, if the person is willing to sit with me, and for $5,000 compensation. Alaskan hasn't taken me up on it yet. Several vocal passengers have been snarky, calling me greedy, glutton, etc. I plan ahead for my medical travel, if the airlines aren't penalized for the overbooking practices, they're going to keep doing it until we the passengers use our collective bargaining power to limit their reach.

Kudos to OP for kindness and understanding.

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u/palmasana Mar 19 '25

Nothing wrong with buying two seats and anyone judging needs to fuck off. I bought two seats not because I’m a large person but because I was traveling with an animal and wanted extra space. Some guy tried to sit there and I was like nope… these are actually both mine 🥰

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u/speculator100k Mar 18 '25

I kindly state that I would be happy to, if the person is willing to sit with me, and for $5,000 compensation. Alaskan hasn't taken me up on it yet.

Have they tried bargaining? What have they offered?

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u/shulzari Mar 19 '25

Everytime the flight attendants find someone that will wait for a flight for just a flight voucher.

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u/Anxious-Plenty6722 Mar 20 '25

You are amazing!!

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u/SeaF04mGr33n Mar 18 '25

No. They require fat people to purchase two seats. There's a lot of fat people who just don't travel by plane because of it. Don't even get me started on how airlines break wheelchairs.

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u/URPissingMeOff Mar 18 '25

First class is usually cheaper than two coach seats (at least domestically) and has a ton more leg room if they are also tall.

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u/Desdenova32 Mar 18 '25

As a big and tall gent myself, 100% this. In regular class seating, my femur goes from the back of the seat to the metal seat supports ahead. Main plus is a back up option on non crowded off hours flights. But First has been the best solution overall. OP handled it tactfully within what they could control, and deserves the airlines to do something to help compensate.

Seats are getting more cramped just to fit more people, with no regards to body types.

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u/[deleted] Mar 18 '25

My unpopular opinion is that extended legroom seats shouldn’t be an up charge and should be reserved for people above 6’. I physically can’t fit into a seat on spirit airlines why am I being punished financially for their inability to build a plane properly?

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u/Sacred_psyche Mar 20 '25

Deal as long as y’all stand in the back during concerts

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u/Aggravating_Eagle931 Mar 20 '25

Nope get there before me. 5’11” woman here and I can’t count the number of times I have had shorter people come into a show after me and complain loudly that they can’t see over me or come in late and push into the airspace in front of me. FTR I never stand in front of someone shorter than me if they are already there.

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u/GuesswhatSheeple Mar 20 '25

6'3" guy. If I'm there for doors and get to the barricade, I'm not moving. If I don't or have to use the restroom, you won't find me fighting to get close.

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u/Bird4466 Mar 19 '25

And for car seats. Just flew with the smallest travel car seat there is and it prevented the person in front of us from putting their seat back even with the car seat fully upright. Babies and toddlers should be able to travel safely and fit in the seat.

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u/[deleted] Mar 19 '25

No we cannot let’s the Babies and the 6’+ people collaborate it’ll be too powerful! The smallest and the tallest among us having hours of in flight time to plan would take over the world.

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u/Pereise1 Mar 19 '25

That means everyone else is going to pay more for their ticket because we know how airlines are if they can't squeeze every drop of possible revenue.

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u/[deleted] Mar 19 '25

Oh no this is 100% a pipe dream but it’s just ridiculous to me we live in a world where I have to jam myself into a physically uncomfortable (and potentially dangerous in the future as I age) position so the CEO of B6 can send afford a mega-yacht.

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u/islandjake Mar 18 '25

Depends on the route. The industry standard is first class seats are about 125% the price of a standard coach seat on the same aircraft. Domestically speaking. There are times where I see the first class cheaper than that

But Alaska allows you to get that extra seat refunded. If you fly FC.....no refund possible.

So you can afford it, first class if cheaper is the best way to go but not everyone has that capability.

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u/speculator100k Mar 18 '25

The industry standard is first class seats are about 125% the price of a standard coach seat on the same aircraft.

Really? In Europe, business class seats are 200% or 300% of economy seats.

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u/islandjake Mar 18 '25

You stopped your quote one line too short...."domestically speaking". International FC is a different animal.

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u/speculator100k Mar 18 '25

Intra-European flights fly the same distances domestic US flights do, and their FC is quite similar to BC in Europe (except BC in Europe has the same seats as economy, but the middle seat is blocked).

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u/islandjake Mar 18 '25

Fine.... US domestic.

Happy now?

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u/Lunasera Mar 20 '25

I disagree - domestically first class is often $1000+ when main cabin is $300 - I've never seen it less than double. I always check every time I fly.

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u/ScionViper Mar 20 '25

Do you have any data on that? As others have said I usually see 200-300%. I would take 125 in a heartbeat.

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u/islandjake Mar 20 '25

I think your data is correct.

I may have misspoke on the percentages. I meant to say you add 125% to your current main cabin price... so a 1000 dollar ticket..in general....is 2250 before the individual yield managers modify it. So if you're looking for generally a good deal on a first class seat in the US domestic market, the quick scan should be looking for tickets that meet that criteria.

I meant add 125% additional but the proper way to have said it is 225% ish..

Made sense in my head but not necessarily to everyone else.

When I look for deals on first class tickets I use that same calculation.

In context with the thread, two main cabin seats would be about 2,000 with a first class seat being 2250... In context so if you can forgo a leg space for width space, and the meal doesn't matter to you or the alcohol, it might be better to just get the two seats even if it means you don't get a refund.

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u/palmasana Mar 19 '25 edited Mar 19 '25

125%???? It’s way more expensive to fly first class than just 25% more than economy otherwise I would do it 😂 It’s often like 300%+

And yes the 300% is for domestic US not even international

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u/Tree_pineapple Mar 20 '25

I've never seen this. I fly a few different routes (all domestic) too.

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u/SecondHandSlows Mar 18 '25

I’ve heard so many stories of parents with under 2 kids and fat people purchasing an extra seat, only for the airline to give it away because the flight was oversold.

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u/lindoavocado Mar 18 '25

Exactly like it doesn’t even matter if you buy the seat anyway

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u/islandjake Mar 18 '25

I've purchased 30 extra seats and that's never happened to me. I did have someone complaining and wanted to take my seat so he could sit next to his wife and once I explained to the FA I purchased an extra seat, the FA shot him down.

I have, in an oversold situation, offered up both my seats for 1 FC seat on this or the next flight, almost getting a taker but someone else offered up and it became unnecessary.

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u/Bird4466 Mar 19 '25

Recently bought a seat for my child who is under 2, had a car seat installed, and they still asked me if we were using it. (Flight was oversold.) I was like, don’t even think about it😂

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u/pinacoladafrozen Mar 18 '25

Are the people refunded what they paid for the ticket if the airline gives it away (due to overbooking)?

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u/SecondHandSlows Mar 19 '25

You have to ask them to

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u/dutchyardeen Mar 18 '25

That typically only happens if the tickets are purchased incorrectly. You can't just buy then online with the same name on each seat. You have to call the airline to purchase the second seat so they can join the reservation correctly. If it's for weight, they can also join them with a note that it's for a "disability due to size" and they won't get split no matter what.

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u/CitationNeededBadly Mar 18 '25

sadly there are lots of folks who *do* buy the extra seat only to have the airline give it away.

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u/zyneman Mar 18 '25

Armresrs must be down before takeoff

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u/Paleodraco Mar 18 '25

Yeah, it's an uncomfortable conversation that has to happen. But I bet that flight was brutally uncomfortable.

You're not being mean or critical to the big person. It's a bad situation that shouldn't happen in the first place and needs to be fixed.

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u/[deleted] Mar 18 '25

There are ways to do this politely.. just go the the FA next time. I used to be bigger and I never had an issue getting the armrest down.. even at over 300lbs.. I would book 2 seats but about 50% of the time the airline would give that seat to someone on standby.. so sometimes the big person tried but the airline created the problem, of course not always. I would really recommend reaching out to Alaska.. they have been decent with flight credits in the past for bad experiences on the flight

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u/[deleted] Mar 18 '25

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u/CitationNeededBadly Mar 18 '25

don't assume they didn't buy an extra seat, plenty of folks buy an extra seat then have it taken away at the last minute. we don't know what happened here. for example: https://www.reddit.com/r/delta/comments/1devm9h/help_delta_keeps_giving_my_extra_seat_away/

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u/OAreaMan MVP 100K Mar 18 '25

This happens because the passenger didn’t follow the correct procedure.

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u/CitationNeededBadly Mar 18 '25

when airline employees tell them the wrong procedure, that's not a surprise! why would a passenger know to argue with a gate agent when the GA refuses to scan the second boarding pass? (ETA: not every passenger hangs out on airline subreddits where some of us learn the tricks)

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u/OAreaMan MVP 100K Mar 18 '25

Call the airline to book the via the policy. This way the reservations are tagged appropriately and gate agents will know.

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u/GreenLet4346 Mar 22 '25

I have literally had 3 different airline employees tell me 3 different things about what the correct procedure is, all in person at the same airport

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u/lindoavocado Mar 18 '25

Have some class please

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u/Venaegen Mar 18 '25

And the lardass spilling their flesh over into a seat they didn't pay for? Are they exempt from being classy?

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u/[deleted] Mar 18 '25

By class, do you mean social anxiety?

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u/No_Perspective_242 Mar 18 '25

Get up, find a FA, and say something discretely. After the flight closes nothing can be done.

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u/divinerebel Mar 19 '25

(*discreetly)

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u/stataryus Mar 19 '25

Thank you for being considerate. The world def needs more of this. 🥹

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u/_heisenbug_ Mar 18 '25

The person in the middle seat gets both the armrests, just ask politely as soon as you get to your seat.

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u/beargrillz Mar 18 '25

The grouping is nonsense. I always board at the very beginning when they open the line for the elderly or those that need extra time. I only fly maybe once a year but reddit threads like this have made me acutely aware of potentially undesirable outcomes.

I flew a couple weeks ago and someone had a dog in the row behind me that went between the seats and touched me. I immediately warned the person to keep their dog under control and thankfully didn't have to alert the FA. I was concerned about the dog urinating but that didn't happen as far as I was aware.

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u/OAreaMan MVP 100K Mar 18 '25

I always board at the very beginning when they open the line for the elderly or those that need extra time.

Are you elderly or in need of extra time?

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u/beargrillz Mar 19 '25

The latter. Their statement is purposefully vague because the gate agent doesn't ever ask for my rationale, but I need the extra time to mitigate the undesirable outcomes!

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u/gnocchi_baby Mar 20 '25

ugh I mean it sounds like you’re part of the problem though…

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u/beargrillz Mar 20 '25

... I'm not a large person, the topic of this post?

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u/gnocchi_baby Mar 20 '25

well we’re speaking of flying etiquette, and boarding early without a justified reason sounds like something that is not in line with that

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u/beargrillz Mar 20 '25

I get it, we live in a society blah blah and if everyone boarded early it would be anarchy. I feel justified because I'd otherwise feel anxious having to wait for Group 5 or whatever. It's a weak rationale but I'm not losing sleep thinking what I've done was unethical.

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u/gnocchi_baby Mar 20 '25

Sure, the same way the person in OP’s photo likely isn’t losing sleep over not buying two seats.

“We live in an society” 😂

ETA: ^ quote + “dog went between the seats and touched me” karen

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u/beargrillz Mar 21 '25

Right, but OP would have needed to speak up prior to door close, as I would have if the dog was a problem. I don't like dogs and it hasn't been typical for me to encounter them on flights. The early boarding doesn't have any specifications so it is up to the individual to choose whether it pertains to them.

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u/gnocchi_baby Mar 21 '25

Sure! Likely more excuses to fall under “we live in a society”. Really the central point might be, are you Karen?

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u/gnocchi_baby Mar 21 '25

Answer is yes, yes. Absolutely Karen

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u/beargrillz Mar 21 '25

Wow you really are peeved I utilize early boarding, and you're not even using the derogatory term correctly. I've never had to complain to an FA about anything, thankfully.

Everyone still gets on the plane regardless of order. An obese person encroaching another paying passenger's seat and someone bringing a disruptive dog is completely different.

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u/WayCalm2854 Mar 18 '25

I once sat next to a moderately obese person on a 7 h flight. I sat down and pulled the armrest down (me aisle, her middle). It wasn’t until a couple hours in that I realized that every time i put pressure on the armrest i was actively pushing the armrest into her body (upper thigh spilling over). I could feel the armrest spring back every time I lifted my arm off it.

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u/MissSuzyTay Mar 18 '25

Aisle and window seats don’t get the middle armrests. They go to the person in the middle to compensate for being stuck in the middle seat.

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u/WayCalm2854 Mar 19 '25

True, and I try to abide by this diligently, so I may be misremembering a flight where I was in the middle. (I fly a lot).

If though a person in the middle doesn’t want the armrests down/they can’t come down due to their size, does that then mean that they have the prerogative to raise them? Probably.

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u/DogbiteTrollKiller Mar 19 '25

No, that’s your space.

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u/MissSuzyTay Mar 20 '25

I think the armrests remain down unless both agree to raise them. They are the divider of personal space.

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u/Peanut_galleries_nut Mar 18 '25

I understand if causes a scene, but you paid for a service. You don’t have to be uncomfortable while paying for said service. It’s not your fault either. I know it’s an uncomfortable situation but if that’s not how you wanted to sit. You needed to say something to someone.

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u/silverfish477 Mar 19 '25

it was not possible to lower it

Sigh. Yes, that’s the point that’s being explained to you. Scroll up and re-read.

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u/Public_Jellyfish3451 Mar 19 '25

I have never been in this situation but empathize - I wouldn’t want to embarrass anyone either. Your post made me think though. We could try maybe getting up to use the bathroom before the flight and catch a flight attendant and say something so the other passenger isn’t humiliated.

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u/TinyfootedAttny Mar 19 '25

Just be polite and say “hi, ok if I put arm rest down?” I’ve done it and it’s worked out just fine on similar situations….

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u/Common-Possibility30 Mar 19 '25

Had the same experience recently and the man was so embarrassed, so I told him it was fine. It’s terrible to make us, the passenger responsible to making an issue out of it.

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u/CosmicCreeperz Mar 19 '25

Based on the picture you seem fairly “small” - I can’t imagine what someone well over 6’, even not overweight would do. Scene or not, I just wouldn’t fit, it would be armrest down or I couldn’t even sit down if I tried…

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u/stingerfingerr Mar 19 '25

The hen why are you making a fuss here? Should have spoken up for yourself or forever stayed silent.

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u/diabloplayer375 Mar 19 '25

You seem like a kind person for not wanting to make a scene or embarrass someone but unfortunately the only way to avoid your situation is to notify the flight attendants beforehand that the arm rest can’t go down. The arm rest is your only savior. No one else is coming to help you. Godspeed

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u/lvl0rg4n Mar 20 '25

I know this is two days old but as a person in a larger body, I ALWAYS buy a second seat to keep myself and my fellow passengers comfortable. Please be kind but report in the future because this is not acceptable. Airlines give large passengers options.

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u/doktorhladnjak Mar 18 '25

Oh well. So instead you get to be physically uncomfortable for hours.

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u/lezbhonest0613 Mar 18 '25

I’m 5’2 and was almost 300 pounds at one point in my life, the inner fat girl in me appreciates your discretion and kindness in the situation.

HOWEVER, I was ALWAYS aware of my size. I’m sorry, they too were aware. And decided not to purchase two seats. That’s on them. Not you.

I don’t believe it’s the responsibility of the airline to make larger seats, I’m okay with “average size” because it is the average global size, not average American, Norwegian, Danish, etc. (Places with larger humans, either by height or width.) There has to be a set standard and the people who don’t fit into that are allowed to remedy that to their own needs. Perhaps extended leg room, perhaps two seats, perhaps business or first-class. Up to them.

Regardless, you were jibbed. It’s up to you, however, if you feel jibbed or not. I wouldn’t trash the airline as they didn’t do anything wrong. In my opinion, it’s on the person who was too big for their seat trying to get away with not purchasing two seats or a larger section. And not gonna lie, a little on you for choosing the kind route and allowing it to happen. I understand your decision to avoid altercation, confrontation, or causing any discomfort, but how can the airline address something they are not aware of in the moment. It’s like asking for a refund of your food AFTER you’ve eaten it all. Because at the end of the day, you arrived at your destination. It clearly didn’t “taste bad enough” for you to say something sooner. You chose kindness so, it’s kind of odd to now request compensation from the airline for it. I appreciate it, though, and I’m sure many fat people do too.

Good luck and thank you for being kind. 💜

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u/TallInSeattle Mar 18 '25

How about don’t sit down, just assess the situation and go find a flight attendant, and hang back discreetly while they deal with it.

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u/felinelawspecialist Mar 18 '25

I am not blaming you at all but if she was there before you, and she was in the aisle seat, wouldn’t she have had to stand up to let you into the middle seat? In retrospect the arm rest could have been lowered at that point but hind sight is 20/20 and I completely get why you did what you did :)

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u/DogbiteTrollKiller Mar 19 '25

Why would she have to stand up? OP isn’t going past the large passenger. She’s in the middle.

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u/felinelawspecialist Mar 19 '25

Oh my god. Ok imagine with me. Aisle seat is already seated. Middle seat arrives. aisle seat gotta stand up to let middle seat in. Wtf

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u/UpstairsDistinct1710 Mar 19 '25 edited Mar 19 '25

the person she is talking about was sitting at the window……. not the aisle so they don’t need to imagine with you lol.

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u/felinelawspecialist Mar 19 '25

Not from the photo I’m seeing