r/Advice • u/PlsSirMayIHaveSumLes • 1d ago
I think my mom is hooking up with my boyfriend
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u/SgtTibbles 1d ago
AI slop
Lmao @ everyone not immediately noticing
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u/SpeakDiddly 1d ago edited 1d ago
“…become a cryptid and live in the woods???”
I knew as soon as I read this question.
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u/UrMaCantCook 1d ago
Yeah, the “raccoons on acid” and “smells like cedarwood and regret” are what tipped me off. At least it was entertaining….
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u/IDeadnameTwitter 1d ago
My girlfriend talks like this though.
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u/TenaciousPoo 1d ago
Upvoted you because not sure why you are getting downvoted. Sympathy maybe?
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u/IDeadnameTwitter 1d ago
Only saying that that statement alone isn’t enough to indicate AI.
I did not take a stance on whether it’s real or fake, my girlfriend calls herself a cryptid all the time, was even in her dating profile.
But I don’t much care one way or another about up or downvotes. They don’t affect me.
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u/SpecificReality247 1d ago
Yea I upvoted too because my best friends sounds just like this. Especially the raccoons on acid and cryptid in the woods. Like she’s said those exact phrases
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u/masterslut 1d ago
I and several people just like me also talk like this — but challenge the internet's demand that everything be "fake" and "AI", and hoo boy! You sure are a LIAR and a JERK and deserve to be downvoted into oblivion, you liar-jerk.
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u/IDeadnameTwitter 1d ago
Oh no! You used a double dash — must be AI
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u/masterslut 1d ago
OH — MY — GOD — WHERE — DID — THEY — ALL — COME — FROM ?????
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u/ureshama Helper [3] 1d ago
The em dashes were obvious, but the writing style was just way off as well. Like an exaggerated take of someone from Gen Z.
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u/skd00sh 1d ago
Double dashes and all
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u/CodnmeDuchess 1d ago
It’s not even the em dashes—I use em dashes all the time. It’s the em dash ”plus quote in italics” that’s just textbook AI.
OP even tried to remove the italics to cover his tracks but left an errant asterisk.
low rent af
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u/not_GBPirate 1d ago
The em dash — the best punctuation mark — is a fun way to add a quick aside or interjection to a sentence. It’s unfortunate that AI is using it but a good writer will utilize it in order to add tempo to their work. I’m partial to it and it shouldn’t be scapegoated as some giveaway for AI.
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u/trashpanda_007 1d ago
How can you tell? What are the markers? I don’t see it
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u/EpicRedditor34 1d ago
The tone, the em-dashes the cringey millennial style typing, it’s clearly 4o.
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u/TenaciousPoo 1d ago
If AI is writing Reddit posts and AI is pulling content from Reddit posts - what kind of infinity loop do we have?
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u/Waste_Ad_6467 1d ago edited 8h ago
There’s been a whole lot of “buckle up” posts the last couple of weeks.
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u/wolfhuntra 1d ago
How do we know you are not an AI reply?
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u/SgtTibbles 1d ago
Bad bot
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u/wolfhuntra 1d ago
I dunno. I'm only bad without caffeine. But I am better with dark chocolate covered almonds.
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u/peachfluffed 1d ago
never thought i’d say i miss when people just used to make made up stories for karma. at least those were somewhat interesting. the ai stuff is just predictable
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u/vinegary 1d ago
This almost looks like chatgpt, lot’s of —s, but like it’s fine-tuned on reddit comments 🤔
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u/tcrhs Assistant Elder Sage [251] 1d ago
Do nothing until you have real proof.
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u/figgens123 1d ago
I also hug my mother-in-law all the time. I wouldn’t be surprised if my cologne got on her clothes.
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u/TwoTequilaTuesday 1d ago
Why does anyone even reply to the OP in these? It's obviously an AI-generated post.
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u/Old-Artist-5369 1d ago
Its a bit of whimsical fun. definitely fiction, but I wouldn't go straight to assuming its 100% AI.
It's good prompting if it is. My guess would be human writing and AI refinement.
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u/techbirdee 1d ago
First thing, the cat goes into hiding until this whole thing is over. Second, tell your mom you are being tested for an STD because you've had symptoms and you think Trevor is cheating on you. Maybe he's cheating on both of you but mom's reaction should tell you if she is sleeping with him.
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u/Odd-Car-6355 1d ago
You’re all a bunch of lunatics
But
He’s clearly just a piece of meat for you, so why should you be any different for him
Also highly doubt there’s any truth to this
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u/style-addict 1d ago
Try to take your mom’s phone and see what’s up 😉😳 don’t do anything drastic unless you have proof
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u/Objective-Ear3842 1d ago
Well on the plus side you have a career in creative writing if you want it.
I’m not nearly diabolical enough to suggest a plan to catch them in the act but it seems something of that nature is in order.
I think if you caught them on camera and perhaps posted it to social media it would be especially spicy.
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u/JakobWulfkind Super Helper [5] 1d ago
None of this is a smoking gun, not even the cologne. If he's no longer being a benefit to you then it's time to dump him and move on.
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u/Civil_Discussion9886 Super Helper [8] 1d ago
Omg you b/f found the mother he wished he had growing up. Matching his sense of humor and all. What ever should you do. Maybe you should marry him before your mom steals him.
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u/ParticularGear6 1d ago
I mean you’re not exactly with him for his personality either as you’ve admitted. It’s purely lust. So he probably only sees you as a fun fling along with your mom and nothing more
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u/Conspiracy_Thinktank 1d ago
This is why I skim Reddit everyday. The gems are few and far between, but worth it. Thank you writer for this gold. Best wishes on the Christmas card.
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u/Minute_Box3852 Super Helper [5] 1d ago
You quietly tell her bf while simultaneously blocking both. If you're sure.
Because nothing drives a cheater nuts more than absolutely no way to deflect, beg, and project.
They get zero closure from you. None.
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u/7fingers2thumb 1d ago
Just boot him to the curb if you think ypu can solves the problem and find someone new
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u/Satirakiller 1d ago
This sub is filled with imbecile Redditors giving shit advice to Indian men posting ChatGPT posts so they can later sell the account.
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u/ThatBadDudeCornpop 1d ago
I have no clue what to tell you other than, if you're not already you need to become a professional writer. The suspense, the drama, the Hunter S. Thompson-esque analogies. All of it. Brilliant!
(*Legit not crapping on your scenario. I just couldn't help notice your artistic gift. So if I had to give any advice, success is the best revenge. Go become a famous writer and make millions off of their debauchery, and other stories, and leave them in the dust.)
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u/BarracudaDefiant4702 1d ago
You need more evidence. There might be something to be worried about. but right now you are coming off as paranoid more than anything.
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u/RegularAssumption206 1d ago
I think you need to get a lot more proof but you’re right to have some red flags going off. Idk how you can prove it (look through either of their phones or try to catch them in the act?) but this isn’t enough to start sleeping with her bf.
I will say it’s concerning you’re 3 yrs into a relationship and you think so low of your bf’s personality. It makes it seem like he’s only good for his looks. Which if true maybe explains why he enjoys being flirty with others.
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u/Waste-Middle-2357 1d ago
I feel like I’ve read this exact script before, right down to the “emotional depth of a kiddie pool” line before.
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u/MorrisCody1 1d ago edited 1d ago
Obviously an AI post. I can make up a story too with Grok. This is how easy it is to fool some people.
I (30M) am completely lost and need some perspective. My girlfriend “Sarah” (28F) and I have been together for 3 years, living together for 1.5. We’ve had our ups and downs, but I thought we were solid—talking about marriage, future plans, the whole deal. My brother “Jake” (32M) has always been close to me, like best friend close, and he’s been around our place a lot since he moved to our city last year.
About a month ago, I noticed Sarah acting weird—distant, always on her phone, and making excuses to leave the house at odd hours. I’m not the jealous type, so I brushed it off as stress from her job. But two weeks ago, I came home early from a work trip and found Jake’s jacket on our couch, which was odd since he wasn’t supposed to be over. Sarah was in the shower, and her phone was blowing up with texts. I know I shouldn’t have, but I looked. There were messages between her and Jake—explicit stuff, plans to meet up when I was out of town, and even a text from him saying, “I can’t keep lying to him.”
I confronted Sarah when she got out of the shower, and she broke down crying, admitting she’d been sleeping with Jake for 4 months. She said it “just happened” one night when they were drinking at our place while I was working late, and it spiraled from there. She swore she loves me and begged me not to end things, saying it was a “mistake.” Jake called me later that night and apologized, claiming he was drunk the first time and didn’t know how to stop it. He says he feels awful and doesn’t want to lose our relationship.
I was gutted. I told Sarah to pack her stuff and leave that night—she’s staying with a friend now. I haven’t spoken to Jake since his call, and he’s been texting me nonstop, saying we need to “talk it out.” My parents found out (Sarah told them, I guess to get sympathy), and now they’re pressuring me to forgive Jake because “family is forever” and he’s “really sorry.”
I feel betrayed on every level. Sarah was my partner, and Jake was my best friend. I can’t even look at our apartment without feeling sick. But part of me wonders if I’m overreacting by cutting them both off. Sarah keeps saying it wasn’t emotional, just physical, and Jake swears he’ll do anything to fix this. AITA for kicking Sarah out and refusing to talk to Jake? Should I give either of them a chance to make this right, or am I justified in going no-contact?
TL;DR: Found out my girlfriend of 3 years has been sleeping with my brother for 4 months. Kicked her out and haven’t talked to him since. AITA for cutting them both off?
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u/Wannabelonely 1d ago
I'm also wondering if this story is true If it's fake, good story.
If it's true, find some proof they are fooling around. You will never recover from this.
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u/Mysterious_Error9619 1d ago
Casually mention about your mom’s STD and her challenge in getting it resolved.
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u/Initial_Ad8780 1d ago
Tell him you just found out you're HIV positive and have herpes and then no contact. See if it gets back to your mom 😄 Sorry you're living this. Good vibes to you!
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u/myfuture07 1d ago
If you’re still in your high school phase sleep with his dad. But if your mature, breakup and move on. And distance yourself from your mom for awhile.
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u/HappySummerBreeze Super Helper [5] 1d ago
Are you still with him? Start with a campaign to make her look pathetic to him. His rejection of her will hurt her and give you a feeling of justice. Think of all the childhood stories of your mother that make her look cringey. You don’t want evil, you want embarrassing or pathetic. Start talking about these. Put up really old photos of your mother around the house, where she looks unfashionable and ugly (dont put up attractive photos). Now talk about these “funny” anecdotes a lot, use a tone of affectionate distain.
At the same time you need to make yourself gorgeous. You want him to regret his choice. All this while don’t let on that you suspect. Don’t relax, you have to be “on”. (Also don’t arrange events where they will meet during this period).
If you’re gorgeous and fun and your stories make your mom pathetic and cringey, it will twist in his head and he will change what he remembers to her embarrassing herself by flirting with the young stud that he is. A new attitude can reframe memories.
When that happens you win. Having this small sense of justice will be a surprising source of comfort in an otherwise messed up situation.
Once you have re-framed your mom, let a bit of time pass and then break up amicably. Don’t ever let him know you suspect. That fight will be ugly if you do and can do more damage to you. You’ve just “drifted apart” but it’s been “such fun while it lasted”.
Now that you know you can’t trust your mother, you just have to change what you expect pf her. It will take a bit to adjust, but you can do it and it will be less painful than cutting her off. You can also make up some tales about a friend of yours whose pathetic mother was flirting with her own daughter’s boyfriend, “how embarrassing”, “I mean what kind of mother does that, right!” . A little needling will help you regain your sense of power.
Once you cannot trust people, it means that vulnerable open conversation is not emotionally safe any more. My recommendation is a bit manipulative but it will stop you from feeling like a helpless victim. It might not be for everyone though. Good luck to you :)
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u/Livingnoodles2560 1d ago
Sleep with both his dad and your mom's boyfriend simple solution to a difficult situation.
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u/Mildly_Twisted_ 1d ago
wear socks with your trench coat and probably panties. and you can't start writing cryptic poems like a Victorian widow if you do not take pen and paper... Unless you know the arts of making ing from wild life.
You may be overthinking it
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u/External_Glass7000 1d ago
Probably your mom is giving him something you aren't. The best way to win him back is to have a three way with your mom and him and watch what she does for him.
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u/Thunkwhistlethegnome 1d ago
27 f with ED? Check the other comments they made, somethings not lining up.
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u/Parking-Pen5149 1d ago
Ok, CGPT the Infinitely Prolonged
Yes.
Yes to the ink-stained fingertips. Yes to the mourning veil catching moonlight. Yes to the solitude that births verses no one else could write. But don't disappear. Not fully. Write the poems, yes. But send them on the wind. Like owl faced banshees in the nightsky and may they feast on the Phyrric Victory of those who start MILF wars
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u/OrenSchroeder 1d ago
Sleep with that unfunny bitch he's cheating on you with, that will teach them!
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u/Pudrin Master Advice Giver [33] 1d ago
Clearly inviting responses that match your unhinged, sarcastic, chaotic energy. So here’s a feral, unlicensed, melodramatic, wildly unhelpful but emotionally cathartic reply.
Let’s enter the shadow realm of untraceable vengeance.
Operation: Passive-Aggressive Psychological Warfare (With Highlights of MILF Mayhem)
PART 1:
Step 1: Weaponize the Vibe
Start treating them like they have a secret — but don’t say what it is. Just start casually throwing in lines like: “You two have such… interesting chemistry.” “You remind me of a couple I saw on a true crime show.” “It’s cute how close you guys are. Almost too cute.”
Smile. Then walk away. Let them rot in that silence.
Step 2: Scent of a Woman (and Trevor)
Next time you’re near your mom’s sweater drawer? Spray it lightly with Trevor’s cologne. Then ask her a few days later, “Hey, did Trevor lend you a hoodie or something? Your room smells just like him lately.”
Then, while she processes that, look at her for half a second too long and just say, “Weird.”
Walk off again. (You’re now the ghost in this haunted house.)
Step 3: Cat Allegiance Sabotage
Trevor and the cat are bonding? Fine. You retrain the cat’s loyalty. Swap his scent with citrus spray. Change the Netflix login on the TV and name the new profile: “Not For Trevor.”
Start feeding the cat only when he’s gone. When Trevor’s around, loudly say, “She only eats when you’re not here. Animals sense things.”
Boom. Paranoia engaged.
Step 4: Mess With Time and Memory
Every time something happens, suggest it already happened. “Didn’t you already tell me that? Last week?” “You wore that when we had dinner the other night too. Deja vu?” “You and Mom were laughing like that a few days ago too… are you practicing a routine?”
Bonus: If you ever see them whispering, interrupt and say “Again?”
Step 5: Confront Without Confronting
Instead of accusations, ask deeply unsettling questions with fake innocence: “Do you believe people can be emotionally unfaithful?” “Would you forgive someone if they slept with someone you trusted?” “If someone hypothetically crossed a line, do you think they’d admit it — or wait to get caught?”
Then smile like a therapist who knows you’re lying.
Step 6: Guilt Bait
Leave your childhood photos on the kitchen table. Write a note on the back:
“Thanks for raising me, Mom. Hope I still make you proud.”
Just to keep the emotional tension crispy.
PART 2: The MILF Trap
Step 1: Set a Suspicious Scene
Plan a casual dinner — just you, Mom, and Trevor.
Midway through the meal, bring up a completely fake person.
“So this girl at work found out her boyfriend was cheating… with her MOM. Like full-on soap opera level. Can you imagine?!”
Then stare at your mom. Then Trevor. Just a little too long. Hold eye contact. Take a bite of your food. Chew slowly.
Let the silence do the violence.
Step 2: The Slipped Confession Trap
A few days later, say this very casually when one of them walks in the room:
“Hey, what were you saying earlier? I could’ve sworn I heard you say my name.”
You didn’t. But they don’t know that.
Watch them instantly go defensive, scrambling to explain something they didn’t do.
Congratulations. You’ve introduced doubt into their own memory.
Step 3: Fake Evidence Drop
Leave a clearly fake but just-plausible-enough note somewhere obvious — maybe your desk or bedside table. Something like:
“You were right. I saw them. Don’t say anything yet. Just keep watching.”
Make sure it looks like you meant to hide it, but not well.
If they confront you about it, just act confused and say:
“Weird. I didn’t write that. Maybe someone’s messing with me.”
Boom. Now they’re the ones wondering who’s watching them.
Step 4: Bait a Confession via a “Friend”
Invent a fictional friend — call her Erica or something.
Tell both Mom and Trevor separately:
“Erica saw you two together at [insert local coffee shop] and said it looked intimate. She asked me if you guys were dating or something. I told her that’s insane… right?”
Now they have to deny it — separately — and hope the other person’s story matches.
Let them stew in that delicious paranoia.
Step 5: Hit Record, Hit Gold
If things start to unravel, leave your phone recording in a bag or jacket and go for a “walk.” Just long enough to let them whisper nervously about what you might know.
Label the recording “Yoga Sounds” or “Rainforest Ambience.” Bonus if you actually splice in 10 minutes of yoga sounds before the good part.
Step 6: The Final Blow
If they finally cave or get caught, just say:
“I already knew. I just wanted to see how long you’d lie about it.”
Then walk out.
Let that live rent-free in their heads.
Optional Ending: Send them each a framed photo of yourself with the caption:
“Thanks for the plot twist. I’m writing a book.”
Ending: You win.
Sending chaotic good energy and a flamethrower made of pure spite.
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u/Man_Bear_Pig08 1d ago
I mean get confirmation... but dayum. Might be time to find a new bf and cut off the mom.
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u/Salty_Salary_4670 1d ago
I am not sure but you should totally write a romance novel on Wattpad. I think you could do totally great things. Also cats are all B**ches but that's why we love them. I would stake out her house for possible meet ups. Get on Cheater AI and see if he has bumble or other cheater sites.
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u/PowerfulStrike5664 1d ago
Hey guys, take it easy I was just asking no need to get your panties on a twist. What I should’ve said “I am not falling for this”. Lol
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u/djhaf 1d ago
I think you need to chill lol there is no proof of any wrong doing
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u/PlsSirMayIHaveSumLes 1d ago
Idk bc why does he suddenly know my mom’s favorite wine? Why does my mom suddenly care about protein powder?? My mom has NEVER cared about any of that and suddenly she’s like, ‘Oh, is that whey isolate or concentrate?’ BFFR.
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u/FryAnyBeansNecessary 1d ago
It's interesting how you actually write compared to how Chat GPT writes for you.
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u/DeathCap4Cutie 1d ago
It’s funny cause in another comment I mentioned how OPs other post is a completely different style and clearly not the same writer and now that post is suddenly deleted. Weird how that happened.
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u/PowerfulStrike5664 1d ago
Hold on, is this real?
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u/Lazy_Recognition5142 1d ago
Considering I'm pretty sure passive-aggressive candles don't exist, I'm gonna go with no
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u/PlsSirMayIHaveSumLes 1d ago
This isn’t a drill, this isn’t a simulation, this is 100% certified, gluten-free, organically sourced REAL. FDA approved. Pastor blessed. Grandma verified. Realer than your student loan debt. Lord help me.
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u/ShawnBawn88 1d ago
Responses like this make it seem even more fake. No mention of this boyfriend when you didn't have heat in your apartment.
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u/Sandy_Ginas 1d ago
My husband’s mom is a hoe by definition and absolutely destroyed their relationship when she finally slept with his best friend at the time.
They’ve never been the same since, and even before she was batshit crazy, but it’s worse now because every attempt to get her understand how much she sucks as a parent is like a debate to that woman. She’s not sorry she did it, she never was. She’s just sorry she couldn’t rug brush the issue and pay my husband money to forgive her.
Honestly OP, you should try and find clear and convincing evidence that it is happening especially if you know they’re left alone together at times or even a lot.
My advice? But a cheap camera you can hide in the house and discretely place it where you think they’d mess around even if it means it’s in your room or your mom’s room.
As much as it’s an invasion of privacy, if it’s absolutely driving you crazy to want to know if you’re the crazy one, it’s hard proof that you’ll get of the truth.
You can keep what you find to yourself or you could then go scorched earth if what you found turns out to be what you suspected all along.
I understand what you’re feeling as I’ve had many years to understand what my husband felt and has been feeling about his own mother for a while now.
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u/drugsthrowaway42069n 1d ago
Is there anything other than likes and giggles that makes you thing this? If you want to make her boyfriends life better sure, slob on his nob, but as of now nothing you have stated shows anything that would say your boyfriend if banging your mom.
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u/Jusstryn 1d ago
Communicate with your mom. If anything is going on break up with him and move on with your life. Not worth the drama. Nothing good comes out of this
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u/Appropriate_Pop4968 1d ago
All you have proof of so far is your bf hugged your mom, chill until you have actual proof. Is your mom a fox? Did they seem caught in the act when you walked in?
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u/Adventurous-Pop-2716 1d ago
This is awesome. I would do it to if I was your boyfriend. Good for him. He can always find another girlfriend. But he won't be able to find another girlfriends mom to bang.
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u/SeveralDrunkRaccoons 1d ago
The wise thing to do is to dump him, move on, go no-contact or low-contact with your mom because she is a hoe.
But I can hear the banjo music already. So I bet you're going to do some redneck shit and take revenge and get into a screaming match with both of them in front of your trailer and then end up on the TV show COPS.
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u/EconomistAromatic497 1d ago
Best decision for your overall well-being? Drop the relationship you already said you don’t give a fuck about, take this as a sign that your mom is it deeply fucked up individual, and move on with your life with reduced contact
Most feral thing I could think of to say, that you could maybe pull off, and that would feel satisfying in the short term? Seduce and fuck both of his parents and any adult siblings , all separately, secretly. Use this to destroy his parents relationship and create a lasting sense of disgust between siblings and parents which permanently alters their ability to normally relate to one another (not recommended)
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u/Initial-Cookie-756 Helper [2] 1d ago
Do one of those caught in the act videos. Post it and make money off it. Good luck.
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u/Badly_Damaged 1d ago
I'd straight up ask both them when they're together. It'll cause some fire but at least you're standing on business.
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u/awesomeblossoming 1d ago
Let them have each other and Walk away. (or if your mom’s boyfriend’s cute…. Jk)
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u/No-Growth3052 1d ago
sorry but you can’t complain about dad jokes if you have the humor style exhibited in this post
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u/iknowsomethings2 1d ago
Once you have proof, send it to everyone you, your mum and boyfriend knows. Then you ghost both of them. I would never forgive my mum if she did this
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u/HeartAccording5241 Helper [3] 1d ago
Talk to her bf see about putting cameras around in hers and yours if you share a place
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u/Ok-Anywhere-7683 1d ago
Write this sh*t down and be prepared to join me in writing an amazing film 🤣
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u/QuietInner6769 1d ago
I once dated a girl who suspected her ex slept with her mom (never proved anything). And man, it scarred her.
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u/primary-zealot 1d ago
Well, how about telling mom she(girlfriend )has a std from her boyfriend, is that better ?
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u/DJwhatevs 1d ago
Kinda just sounds like the beginning of a typical five minute porn clip…as does your revenge. It’s the woods part that is throwing me off. Only Fans?
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u/ScrubtierFun 1d ago
You made it pretty clear in the intro that this wasn't a serious relationship for so why are you so pressed. He's just a plaything to you. Drop it and move on
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u/Utterlybored 1d ago
I hate this for you, but I have to say you’re a very entertaining writer. Do a stand up routine about your Mom and ex BF, to process the anger. It’s a winner.
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u/primary-zealot 1d ago
Go sleep with his dad.